A Practical Walkthrough for Reading Life By Akhil Sharma

Most people pick up this book expecting a straightforward immigrant narrative and then get confused because it isn't one. Akhil Sharma writes in long, patient sentences that move through decades without much dramatic punctuation. The novel follows a family — the Chatis — across three generations, from rural Bihar to Brooklyn, and the narrative voice keeps shifting between close third-person perspectives and moments that feel almost like memory trying to reconstruct itself. I read this book twice before I felt like I actually understood what it was doing. The first read-through I got frustrated because I kept waiting for a bigger plot to emerge. It doesn't really arrive in the traditional sense. What the book is about is smaller things: the way poverty changes how people talk to each other, how ambition and obligation sit on top of one another in a household, and how the American dream looks when you've already paid a lot to get here.

Life By Akhil Sharma

If you're approaching this as a study guide or a reading group pick, here's what I'd recommend doing upfront. Read the first fifty pages slowly and take notes on the family relationships. The character map is dense. There's Prem Kumar Chati, his wife Kamala, their children Rishi and Anu, and then the next generation. Names sound similar, relationships compound across chapters, and if you don't track who is whose child at the start you will lose your place by chapter nine. The book has three major structural movements. The first covers Prem and Kamala's life in India and their early immigration. The second jumps forward and focuses on the children, particularly Rishi, navigating college and a relationship with an American woman named Mary. The third part deals with the consequences of those earlier choices rippling into the next generation. Each section operates at a different temperature. The India sections are quieter, almost claustrophobic. The Brooklyn sections have more energy but also more emotional exhaustion. One thing I noticed that most reviewers miss: Sharma is writing about language as a form of displacement. The characters are constantly translating themselves — not just between Hindi and English, but between who they were before they left and who they're becoming. This shows up in small details. A character will hesitate mid-sentence. They'll choose a word and then second-guess it. It's not romanticized. It's just the daily friction of living in two languages and never quite belonging fully to either.

When I was discussing this with a professor who assigned it, they pointed out something I hadn't considered. The novel's structure mirrors the way memory actually works for immigrants. You don't remember chronologically. You remember in layers. A scene in Brooklyn triggers a fragment from Bihar, and the narrative lets those fragments sit next to each other without explaining the connection. That's not bad writing. That's the point. But it does mean you can't read it like a thriller. You have to accept that confusion is part of the experience. There's a specific passage around the middle of the book where Rishi is sitting with Mary and they're having a conversation that goes nowhere for two pages. Most readers skim that part. Don't. That's where the book's entire thesis about miscommunication lives. The silence between what people say and what they mean is where Sharma does his real work. If you're writing a paper on this, the strongest angle I've seen is to focus on the title itself. "Life By" suggests something methodical, almost clinical — as if the author is laying out life as a set of instructions or observations. The book resists that framing even as it seems to promise it. The Chatis' lives aren't case studies. They're messy, contradictory, and often painful in ways that don't resolve neatly. The tension between the clinical title and the emotional content is deliberate.

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Family Life by Akhil Sharma (signed first edition) | Lemuria Books
Family Life by Akhil Sharma (signed first edition) | Lemuria Books

One caveat. If you're looking for a fast read, this isn't it. The prose moves deliberately, and there are sections that feel longer than they need to be. Some critics have called this patience a virtue. Others have called it indulgence. Both positions are valid. My recommendation is to give it at least two hundred pages before you decide whether it's working for you. The middle section is where the book finds its footing, and if you bail early you'll walk away thinking it's just a slow immigrant story when it's actually something more complicated than that. The Penguin edition is the standard one. I'd avoid any older prints if possible — the typography in the current edition is easier on the eyes for the longer passages, which matters more than you'd think with a book this dense.