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| codependent no more worksheets: Codependent No More Workbook Melody Beattie, 2011-03-09 This highly anticipated workbook will help readers put the principles from Melody Beattie's international best seller Codependent No More into action in their own lives. The Codependent No More Workbook was designed for Melody Beattie fans spanning the generations, as well as for those who may not yet even understand the meaning and impact of their codependency. In this accessible and engaging workbook, Beattie uses her trademark down-to-earth style to offer readers a Twelve Step, interactive program to stop obsessing about others by developing the insight, strength, and resilience to start taking care of themselves. Through hands-on guided journaling, exercises, and self-tests, readers will learn to integrate the time-tested concepts outlined in Codependent No More into their daily lives by setting and enforcing healthy limits; developing a support system through healthy relationships with others and a higher power; experiencing genuine love and forgiveness; and letting go and detaching from others' harmful behaviors. Whether fixated on a loved one with depression, an addiction, an eating disorder, or other self-destructive behaviors, or someone who makes unhealthy decisions, this book offers the practical means to plot a comprehensive, personalized path to hope, healing, and the freedom to be your own best self. |
| codependent no more worksheets: Codependent no More Shell Teri, 2023-05-06 YOU DESERVE TO BREAK FREE FROM CODEPENDENCY: LET YOURSELF BE GUIDED TO A BETTER LIFE. Pain is a powerful emotion that can grip us tightly, refusing to let go. It can take over our thoughts and actions, affecting every aspect of our lives. And when we find ourselves in a codependent relationship, that pain can be even more intense. It's a vicious cycle that can seem impossible to break. But what if there was a way to break free from that pain? What if you could learn to let go of the past, win yourself back, make peace with painful memories, and recreate a beautiful life by moving on? That's exactly what Codependent no More offers. This book is a comprehensive guide to overcoming codependency and finding true happiness. The author understands the pain and agitation that comes with being in a codependent relationship, and she offers a practical solution to help readers regain control of their lives. Through her own personal experiences and years of research, Shell Teri provides readers with the tools they need to heal from past wounds and move forward with confidence. By reading this book, readers will gain a new perspective on their relationships and their lives. Here are just a few of the many emotional benefits you'll experience as you work through this transformative book: ° Learn to let go of the pain and agitation of codependent relationships. ° Discover how to win yourself back and make peace with painful memories. ° Recreate a beautiful life by moving on from toxic relationships. ° Develop healthy communication techniques and set boundaries. ° Gain a new perspective on your relationships and your life. ° Learn to recognize your own needs and desires and how to communicate them effectively. You will gain the tools to live a happy, fulfilling life on your own terms. If you're tired of feeling stuck in a codependent relationship and are ready to take control of your life, then Codependent no More is the perfect book for you. With its practical solutions and easy-to-follow steps, you can start your journey towards healing and happiness today. So don't wait any longer. Take action now and get your copy today! |
| codependent no more worksheets: Codependent No More Melody Beattie, 2009-06-10 In a crisis, it's easy to revert to old patterns. Caring for your well-being during the coronavirus pandemic includes maintaining healthy boundaries and saying no to unhealthy relationships. The healing touchstone of millions, this modern classic by one of America's best-loved and most inspirational authors holds the key to understanding codependency and to unlocking its stultifying hold on your life. Is someone else's problem your problem? If, like so many others, you've lost sight of your own life in the drama of tending to someone else's, you may be codependent--and you may find yourself in this book--Codependent No More. The healing touchstone of millions, this modern classic by one of America's best-loved and most inspirational authors holds the key to understanding codependency and to unlocking its stultifying hold on your life. With instructive life stories, personal reflections, exercises, and self-tests, Codependent No More is a simple, straightforward, readable map of the perplexing world of codependency--charting the path to freedom and a lifetime of healing, hope, and happiness. Melody Beattie is the author of Beyond Codependency, The Language of Letting Go, Stop Being Mean to Yourself, The Codependent No More Workbook and Playing It by Heart. |
| codependent no more worksheets: Codependent Cure Jean Harrison, Beattie Grey, 2019-02-22 Imagine a powerful solution for saying No to your loved ones WITHOUT risking their affection... Do you need external validation just to function properly? Are you constantly putting out fires and fixing other people's problems while neglecting your own? Are your fears of abandonment so strong that you feel as if one of your limbs is being amputated when someone leaves you? If so, you're not alone. Many people have tried various methods to overcome their codependency with little to NO success, leaving them feeling hopeless. You wake up each day feeling like a shell of your former self, lost in a never-ending cycle of putting others' needs before your own. Saying no to helping others feels incredibly guilty, and the fear of losing their love often prevents you from putting yourself first. While it's healthy to be needed and valued by your loved ones, it can become a problem when it drives most of your decisions and behaviors... Especially if you’re only comfortable in relationships where you feel like the person can't live without you. Imagine a powerful solution to assertively say no to your loved ones WITHOUT losing their love - allowing you to stop being an emotional sponge and finally put yourself first! It’s called Codependent Cure – A revolutionary, scientifically-backed guide published by bestselling author Jean Harrison, for breaking the chains of codependency and developing emotional resilience. With the proven techniques and strategies outlined in this book, countless individuals have reclaimed their lives, moving away from the relentless pursuit of validation and the habit of people-pleasing. Here's just a small fraction of what you'll discover: ✓ The hidden link between codependency and addiction to break the enabling cycle ✓ The art of setting boundaries like a pro and handling resistance with finesse ✓ The #1 platform destroying your self-worth & why you must leave immediately ✓ How to shortcut your healing from codependency with 3 powerful routines ✓ A bulletproof system designed for maintaining your recovery after healing ✓ How to spot the subtle warning signs of a codependent relationship that often go unnoticed by many ✓ How to explore dating while shielding yourself from predators eager to trap you in toxic relationships ✓ And Much, Much More Exclusive Bonus: You'll also get access to a powerful 3-step toolkit, complete with practical worksheets and exercises, designed to rapidly dissolve codependent patterns and speed up your recovery journey. Codependent Cure helps you learn to stop abandoning yourself for the sake of others while you learn how to honor your emotions, set boundaries, and finally speak your truth. Your happiness and needs are just as important as those of others, so now is the time to take care of them! If you're ready to liberate yourself from the grips of codependency and explore the happiness and fulfillment waiting for you... Then secure your copy of this book today! |
| codependent no more worksheets: Codependents' Guide to the Twelve Steps Melody Beattie, 1992-04-09 Explains how recovery programs work and how to apply the Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous. Offers specific exercises and activities for use by individuals and in group settings. |
| codependent no more worksheets: Running on Empty Jonice Webb, 2012-10-01 A large segment of the population struggles with feelings of being detached from themselves and their loved ones. They feel flawed, and blame themselves. Running on Empty will help them realize that they're suffering not because of something that happened to them in childhood, but because of something that didn't happen. It's the white space in their family picture, the background rather than the foreground. This will be the first self-help book to bring this invisible force to light, educate people about it, and teach them how to overcome it. |
| codependent no more worksheets: The Human Magnet Syndrome Ross A. Rosenberg, 2013-04-01 Born in the cauldron of personal experience of suffering and healing and honed through years of professional experience, this book will help anyone understand the attractors of love and consequent suffering. I recommend it to couples who are mystified by the depth and repitition of their pain and joy and to therapists whose destiny is to help them. ~ Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., co-author with Helen LaKelly Hunt of Making Marriage Simple: Transform the Relationship you Have Into the Relationship you Want Since the dawn of civilization, men and women have been magnetically and irresistibly drawn together into romantic relationships, not so much by what they see, feel and think, but more by invisible forces. When individuals with healthy emotional backgrounds meet, the irresistible “love force” creates a sustainable, reciprocal and stable relationship. Codependents and emotional manipulators are similarly enveloped in a seductive dreamlike state; however, it will later unfold into a painful “seesaw” of love, pain, hope and disappointment. The soul mate of the codependent’s dreams will become the emotional manipulator of their nightmares. Readers of the Human Magnet Syndrome will better understand why they, despite their dreams for true love, find themselves hopelessly and painfully in love with partners who hurt them. This book will guide and inspire both the layman and the professional. |
| codependent no more worksheets: The Christian Codependence Recovery Workbook Stephanie Tucker, 2012-09-01 This second revised version offers a group leader's manual updated material. The Christian Codependence Recovery Workbook: From Surviving to Significance takes you through a truth-finding journey to reveal your system of love, life and relationships. It practically addresses the manifest behaviors, emotions and needs of the codependent, while simultaneously introducing the precious truths of God's love. This workbook doesn't just diagnose the problem, but offers the healing principles of the Lord Jesus Christ in a fresh and profound way. When applied, you will have the opportunity to walk in freedom and grace, rather than bondage and control. Above all, this journey allows you to find freedom, purpose and identity in Christ. This book is written for anyone who wants to grow closer to the Lord, and to embrace healthy and whole relationships. |
| codependent no more worksheets: Will I Ever be Good Enough? Karyl McBride, 2008 The first book specifically for daughters suffering from the emotional abuse of selfish, self-involved mothers,Will I Ever Be Good Enough?provides the expert assistance you need in order to overcome this debilitating history and reclaim your life for yourself. Drawing on over two decades of experience as a therapist specializing in women's psychology and health, psychotherapist Dr. Karyl McBride helpsyou recognize the widespread effects of this maternal emotional abuse and guides you as you create an individualized program for self-protection, resolution, and complete recovery.An estimated 1.5 million American women have narcissistic personality disorder, which makes them so insecure and overbearing, insensitive and domineering that they can psychologically damage their daughters for life. Daughters of narcissistic mothers learn that maternal love is not unconditional, and that it is given only when they behave in accordance with their mothers' often unreasonable expectations and whims. As adults, these daughters consequently have difficulty overcoming their insecurities and feelings of inadequacy, disappointment, sadness, and emotional emptiness. They may also have a terrible fear of abandonment that leads them to form unhealthy love relationships, as well as a tendency to perfectionism and unrelenting self-criticism, or to self-sabotage and frustration.Herself the recovering daughter of a narcissistic mother, Dr. McBride includes her personal struggle, which adds a profound level of authority to her work, along with the perspectives of the hundreds of suffering daughters she's interviewed over the years. Their stories of how maternal abuse has manifested in their lives -- as well as how they have successfully overcome its effects -- show you that you're not alone and that you can take back your life and have the controlyouwant.Dr. McBride's step-by-step program will enable you to:(1) Recognize your own experience with maternal narcissism and its effects on all aspects of your life (2) Discover how you have internalized verbal and nonverbal messages from your mother and how these have translated into a strong desire to overachieve or a tendency to self-sabotage (3) Construct a step-by-step program to reclaim your life and enhance your sense of self, a process that includes creating a psychological separation from your mother and breaking the legacy of abuse. You will also learn how not to repeat your mother's mistakes with your own daughter.Warm and sympathetic, filled with the examples of women who have established healthy boundaries with their hurtful mothers,Will I Ever Be Good Enough?encourages and inspires you as it aids your recovery. |
| codependent no more worksheets: Codependency For Dummies Darlene Lancer, 2012-04-06 Codependency is much more widespread than originally thought. You don’t even have to be in a relationship. Codependents have trouble accepting themselves, so they hide who they are to be accepted by someone else. Codependency for Dummies is the most comprehensive book on the topic to date. It describes the history, symptoms, causes, and relationship dynamics of codependency and provides self-assessment questionnaires. The majority of the book is devoted to healing and lays out a clear plan for recovery with exercises, practical advice, and helpful daily reminders to help you know, honor, protect, and express yourself. It clarifies deep psychological dynamics that underlie codependency, yet is written in a conversational style that’s easily understandable by everyone. You will learn: How to raise your self-esteem The difference between care-giving and codependent care-taking The difference between healthy and dysfunctional families How to set boundaries How to separate responsibility for yourself and for others How to overcome guilt and resentment |
| codependent no more worksheets: Unworthy Anneli Rufus, 2014-05-15 “Self-loathing is a dark land studded with booby traps. Fumbling through its dark underbrush, we cannot see what our trouble actually is: that we are mistaken about ourselves. That we were told lies long ago that we, in love and loyalty and fear, believed. Will we believe ourselves to death?” —from Unworthy As someone who has struggled with low self-esteem her entire life, Anneli Rufus knows only too well how the world looks through the eyes of those who are not comfortable in their own skin. In Unworthy, Rufus boldly explores how a lack of faith in ourselves can turn us into our own worst enemies. Drawing on extensive research, enlightening interviews, and her own poignant experiences, Rufus considers the question: What personal, societal, biological, and historical factors coalesced to spark this secret epidemic, and what can be done to put a stop to it? She reveals the underlying sources of low self-esteem and leads us through strategies for positive change. |
| codependent no more worksheets: The Teen Relationship Workbook Kerry Moles, 2001 This workbook is for therapists, counselors, and other professionals working with young people to prevent or end relationship abuse. Designed to teach teens to recognize the warning signs in relationship abuse and develop skills for healthy relationships. |
| codependent no more worksheets: Backbone Power the Science of Saying No Anne Brown, 2013-07-16 A wise man once said, the key to failure is trying to please everybody. But before you can tell others NO, you have to able to tell yourself YES. Yes to embarking on a path of personal growth. Yes to ending the cycle of people-pleasing and self-neglect-finally and forever. Plainly put, you must develop a BACKBONE. Yes, it is a process and a journey. Yes, you will be tested. But on the other side of this crucible lies empowerment and respect. Let Dr. Anne Brown, a practicing therapist for the last twenty-five years, show you the way. Yes, it is worth it and no, you won't be sorry. |
| codependent no more worksheets: Beyond Codependency Melody Beattie, 1989 The companion volume to Codependent No More journeys beyond the concept of self-understanding to analyze the dynamics of the healthy recovery process. |
| codependent no more worksheets: Codependent No More Melody Beattie, 2023-04-13 Have you lost sight of yourself while addressing the needs of others? Fully revised and updated, with a new chapter on trauma and anxiety, this modern classic – that has already sold over 7 million copies across the globe – will help you heal and grow. Is someone else's problem your problem? If, like so many others, you've lost sight of your own life in the drama of tending to a loved one's self-destructive behaviour, you may be codependent – and you may find yourself in this book. A cultural phenomenon that has helped heal millions of readers, this modern classic holds the key to understanding codependency and unlocking its hold on your life. Melody Beattie's compassionate and insightful look into codependency – the concept of losing oneself in the name of helping another – has helped to guide millions of readers towards the understanding that they are powerless to change anyone but themselves and that caring for the self is where healing begins. With personal reflections, exercises, and instructive stories drawn from Beattie's own life and the lives of those she's counselled, Codependent No More will help you break old patterns and maintain healthy boundaries, and offers a clear and achievable path to healing, hope, freedom and happiness. This revised edition includes an all-new chapter on trauma and anxiety – subjects Beattie has long felt need to be addressed within the context of codependency – making it even more relevant today than it was when it first entered the international conversation over thirty-five years ago. |
| codependent no more worksheets: The Codependency Recovery Plan Krystal Mazzola, 2019-03-05 Break away and recover from patterns of codependency It could start as lending an occasional hand, but over time, escalates into putting someone else above everything else—even our own well-being. Balance is needed for healthy relationships with others and ourselves. The Codependency Recovery Plan presents an enlightening look at codependency, where it comes from, and a detailed pathway out. The Codependency Recovery Plan fully explains codependency, its symptoms, and the factors that contribute to its development. It offers guidance on ways to recognize codependent behavior, become a better communicator, set boundaries, mend romantic relationships, and raise your self-esteem. Chapter exercises provide a workspace for self-reflection so that you can see your situation with fresh eyes, and gain a new perspective on your own life. Independence starts with a step-by-step plan: Step 1: Get in Touch with Your “Self”—Learn to look inward and become self-reliant. Step 2: Prioritize Self-Care—Honor and value your own self-worth and be kind to yourself. Step 3: Build Boundaries—Set limits for giving your life and love to others. Step 4: Maintain Open Communication—Speak comfortably and confidently with your support network. Step 5: Nurture Intimacy—Create healthy and constructive connections. Start building a better relationship with yourself and the people around you using The Codependency Recovery Plan. |
| codependent no more worksheets: Boundaries Henry Cloud, John Sims Townsend, 1992 When to say yes, when to say no to take control of your life. |
| codependent no more worksheets: The Come as You Are Workbook Emily Nagoski, 2019-06-11 A new, practical workbook from the New York Times bestselling author of Come As You Are that allows you to apply the book’s groundbreaking research and understanding of why and how women’s sexuality works to everyday life. In the twentieth century, women’s sexuality was seen as “Men’s Sexuality Lite”: basically the same, but not quite as good. From genital response to sexual desire to orgasm, we just couldn’t understand that complicated, inconsistent, crazy-making “lady business.” That is, until Emily Nagoski changed the game with her New York Times bestseller, Come As You Are. Using groundbreaking science and research, she proved that the most important factor in creating and sustaining a sex life filled with confidence and joy is not what the parts are or how they’re organized, but how you feel about them. Which means that things like stress, mood, trust, and body image are not peripheral factors in a woman’s sexual wellbeing; they are central to it. And, that even if you don’t yet feel that way, you are already sexually whole. Nagoski’s book changed countless women’s lives and approaches to sex, and now she offers the next step. The Come As You Are Workbook is a practical companion to this bestselling guide, filled with new activities, prompts, and thought-provoking examples to help you exercise and expand on the knowledge you’ve learned. This collection of worksheets, journaling prompts, illustrations, and diagrams is a practical and engaging companion for anyone who wants to further their understanding of their own bodies and sex lives. |
| codependent no more worksheets: Stop Walking on Eggshells Paul T. Mason, Randi Kreger, 2010 Discusses the signs and symptoms of borderline personality disorder and explains how the families and friends of patients can cope with BPD behavior while taking care of themselves. |
| codependent no more worksheets: The Buddha and the Borderline Kiera Van Gelder, 2010-08-01 Kiera Van Gelder's first suicide attempt at the age of twelve marked the onset of her struggles with drug addiction, depression, post-traumatic stress, self-harm, and chaotic romantic relationships-all of which eventually led to doctors' belated diagnosis of borderline personality disorder twenty years later. The Buddha and the Borderline is a window into this mysterious and debilitating condition, an unblinking portrayal of one woman's fight against the emotional devastation of borderline personality disorder. This haunting, intimate memoir chronicles both the devastating period that led to Kiera's eventual diagnosis and her inspirational recovery through therapy, Buddhist spirituality, and a few online dates gone wrong. Kiera's story sheds light on the private struggle to transform suffering into compassion for herself and others, and is essential reading for all seeking to understand what it truly means to recover and reclaim the desire to live. |
| codependent no more worksheets: The Thriver Workbook Susan M.. Omilian, 2010-04-01 Can you imagine experiencing the part of you that has been untouched by violence, abuse, trauma, hurt and pain? There is a journey beyond merely surviving abuse. It is the Journey to the Real You - the amazing place where positive energy flows and you are a THRIVER! The Thriver Workbook: Journey from Victim to Survivor to Thriver! is an invaluable book to help you take the critical next-step from survivor to thriver! It contains the motivational guidance Susan Omilian has successfully used in her My Avenging Angel Workshops since 2001. With easy-to-use worksheets, interactive writing exercises and inspirational success stories from those who have survived abuse, The Thriver Workbook takes the reader step-by-step, chapter-by-chapter, through the exercises, writing prompts and interactive activities that women enjoy in Susan's two-day workshop. Also shared in the book are Thriver Success Stories, by women who have survived domestic violence and are now thriving. Visit Susan's website at www.thriverzone.com for more information about Susan, her workshops and her workbook. |
| codependent no more worksheets: The One-Way Relationship Workbook Alan Cavaiola, Neil Lavender, 2011-07-13 When you interact with a friend, family member, intimate partner, or coworker who is a narcissist, there's no give and take. The relationship only goes one way-their way-and you constantly have to adjust your own expectations and behavior to meet their standards. That's because people with narcissistic personality disorder, or NPD, are preoccupied with seeking admiration and power and find it difficult to empathize with others' feelings. And, as if maintaining a good relationship with a narcissist weren't hard enough, most narcissists do not realize or believe that they have a disorder at all. That's why The One-Way Relationship Workbook was created to help you effectively improve and ultimately transform your relationship with the self-absorbed, self-centered, or narcissistic individuals in your life. |
| codependent no more worksheets: Codependent No More Melody Beattie, 1987 The 20th Anniversary edition of Codependent No More commemorates the ground-breaking message that taking care of one's self is a radical act of healing and transformation. |
| codependent no more worksheets: Spent Sally Palaian, 2011-04-07 Leading psychologist and financial commentator Palaian offers a tested, step-by-step guide to help people break the spending obsession by looking within. Today, Americans are saving less, carrying larger debt loads, losing their homes to foreclosure, and filing bankruptcy in record numbers. Yet, people continue to spend more than they can afford. The advice of financial planners only treats the symptoms of overspending. In Spent, Sally Palaian offers proven plans for taking on a range of personal issues with money by examining those underlying emotional, familial, and societal factors that trigger spending behaviors. Spent teaches readers to control shopping, pay off debt, develop budgets, and become financially competent through: - easy-to-use assessment tools designed to pinpoint the severity of a problem - questionnaires that facilitate the exploration of the root causes of unhealthy financial behaviors - user-friendly exercises created to influence change from within Palaian's system for financial recovery is also designed to help hoarders, financial codependents, and underachievers attain lasting, positive change and a healthy view of one's true value in life. Palaian has spoken about financial disorders for various therapy associations and has served as an expert in the media on mental disorders and spending, most recently for MSN Money. |
| codependent no more worksheets: Boundary Boss Terri Cole, 2024-10-24 Break Free From Over-Functioning, Over-Delivering, People-Pleasing, and Ignoring Your Own Needs So You Can Finally Live the Life You Deserve! Most of us were never taught how to effectively express our preferences, desires or deal-breakers. Instead, we hide our feelings behind passive-aggressive behavior, deny our own truths, or push our emotions down until we get depressed or so frustrated that we explode, potentially destroying hard-won trust and relationships. The most successful and satisfied people on the planet have one thing in common: the ability to create and communicate clear, healthy boundaries. This ability is, hands down, the biggest game changer when it comes to creating a healthy, happy, self-determined life. In Boundary Boss, psychotherapist Terri Cole reveals a specific set of skills that can help you stop abandoning yourself for the sake of others (without guilt or drama) and get empowered to consciously take control of every aspect of your emotional, spiritual, physical, personal, and professional life. Since becoming a Boundary Boss is a process, Cole also offers actionable strategies, scripts, and techniques that can be used in the moment, whenever you need them. You will learn: How to recognize when your boundaries have been violated and what to do next How your unique Boundary Blueprint is unconsciously driving your boundary behaviors, and strategies to redesign it Powerful boundary scripts so in the moment you will know what to say How to manage 'Boundary Destroyers' - including emotional manipulators, narcissists and other toxic personalities Where you fall on the spectrum of codependency and how to create healthy, balanced relationships This book is for women who are exhausted from over-giving, overdoing, and even over-feeling. If you're getting it all done but at the expense of yourself, give yourself the gift of Boundary Boss. |
| codependent no more worksheets: Women Who Love Psychopaths Sandra L. Brown, 2009 |
| codependent no more worksheets: The Essential Guide to Overcoming Avoidant Personality Disorder Martin Kantor, 2010-02-26 Avoidant Personality Disorder (AvPD) is an extremely widespread, devastating disorder that generally goes unrecognized or, if recognized, is misrepresented by what little scientific literature there is on the topic. This title guides both patients and those trying to help them. |
| codependent no more worksheets: The Stigma of Addiction Jonathan D. Avery, Joseph J. Avery, 2019-01-09 This book explores the stigma of addiction and discusses ways to improve negative attitudes for better health outcomes. Written by experts in the field of addiction, the text takes a reader-friendly approach to the essentials of addiction stigma across settings and demographics. The authors reveal the challenges patients face in the spaces that should be the safest, including the home, the workplace, the justice system, and even the clinical community. The text aims to deliver tools to professionals who work with individuals with substance use disorders and lay persons seeking to combat stigma and promote recovery. The Stigma of Addiction is an excellent resource for psychiatrists, addiction medicine specialists, students across specialties, researchers, public health officials, and individuals with substance use disorders and their families. |
| codependent no more worksheets: The Better Boundaries Workbook Sharon Martin, 2021-11-01 Do you have trouble saying no, or constantly sacrifice your own needs to please others? If so, this evidence-based workbook will help you set healthy boundaries in all aspects of your life—without feeling guilty or afraid. If you find yourself feeling responsible for others’ happiness, worrying about letting people down, or struggling to speak up for yourself, you probably have difficulty setting healthy boundaries. Establishing clear personal boundaries is essential to creating and nurturing mutually respectful relationships based on equality. Setting limits can also protect you from getting involved in exploitative relationships, and help you avoid toxic personalities who don’t have your best interests at heart. This evidence-based workbook will show you how to set healthy boundaries across all aspects of life—without sacrificing your kindness or compassion for others. You’ll learn to define your boundaries and discover why they’re so important for your emotional well-being. You’ll also find a wealth of tips for maintaining boundaries in a constantly-connected world, strategies for what to do when people get upset or threatened by your assertiveness, and ways to make sure your needs are met. If you’re tired of feeling guilty or afraid of putting your mental and physical health first, are ready to take back control of your life, and create healthy and balanced relationships, this book will show you how to step up and set limits, assert yourself confidently, and realize your full potential. |
| codependent no more worksheets: Discovering the Inner Mother Bethany Webster, 2021-01-05 Sure to become a classic on female empowerment, a groundbreaking exploration of the personal, cultural, and global implications of intergenerational trauma created by patriarchy, how it is passed down from mothers to daughters, and how we can break this destructive cycle. Why do women keep themselves small and quiet? Why do they hold back professionally and personally? What fuels the uncertainty and lack of confidence so many women often feel? In this paradigm-shifting book, leading feminist thinker Bethany Webster identifies the source of women’s trauma. She calls it the Mother Wound—the systemic disenfranchisement of women by the patriarchy—and reveals how this cycle is perpetuated by wounded mothers who unconsciously pass on damaging beliefs and behaviors to their daughters. In her workshops, online courses, and talks, Webster has helped countless women re-examine their lives and their relationships with their mothers, giving them the vocabulary to voice their pain, and encouraging them to share their experiences. In this manifesto and self-help guide, she offers practical tools for identifying the manifestations of the Mother Wound in our daily life and strategies we can use to heal ourselves and prevent our daughters from enduring the same pain. In addition, she offers step-by-step advice on how to reconnect with our inner child, grieve the mother we didn’t have, stop people-pleasing, and, ultimately, transform our heartache and anger into healing and self-love. Revealing how women are affected by the Mother Wound, even if they don’t personally identify as survivors, Discovering the Inner Mother revolutionizes how we view mother-daughter relationships and gives us the inspiration and guidance we need to improve our lives and ultimately create a more equitable society for all. |
| codependent no more worksheets: The Betrayal Bond Patrick Carnes, 2019-02-12 Some really great books just keep getting better! For seventeen years The Betrayal Bond has been the primary source for therapists and patients wrestling the effects of emotional pain and harm caused by exploitation from someone they trusted. Divorce, litigation, incest and child abuse, domestic violence, kidnapping, professional exploitation and religious abuse are all areas of trauma bonding. These are situations and relationships of incredible intensity or importance lend themselves more easily to an exploitation of trust or power. In The Betrayal Bond, Dr. Carnes presents an in-depth study of these relationships; why they form, who is most susceptible, and how they become so powerful. Dr. Carnes also gives a clear explanation of the bond that compels people to tolerate the intolerable, and for the first time, maps out the brain connection that makes being with hurtful people comparable to 'a drug of choice.' Most importantly, Carnes provides practical steps to identify compulsive attachment patterns and ultimately to change or end them for good. This new edition includes: New science for understanding how our brains can make a prison of bad relationships New assessments and insights based on 50,000 research participants A new section utilizing the latest findings in attachment research and narrative therapy to concretely rewrite and rescript bad experiences A redefinition of the factors contributing to addictive relationships |
| codependent no more worksheets: The Science of Intelligent Achievement Isaiah Hankel, 2018-02-05 Smart strategies for pragmatic, science-based growth and sustainable achievement. The Science of Intelligent Achievement teaches you the scientific process of finding success through your most valuable assets: · Selective focus – how selective are you with who and what you let into your life? · Creative ownership – how dependent are you on others for your happiness and success? · Pragmatic growth – how consistently and practically are you growing daily? First, this book will show you how to develop your focus by being very selective with where you spend your mental energy. If you've failed to reach an important goal because you were distracted, misinformed, or overcommitted, then you know the role focus and selectivity play in achievement. Second, you will learn how to stop allowing your happiness and success to be dependent on other people and instead, start taking ownership over your life through creative work. Finally, you will learn the art of changing your life through pragmatic decisions and actions. Self-improvement is not the result of dramatic changes. Instead, science has shown that personal and professional change is initiated and sustained by consistent, practical changes. To grow, you must leverage the power of micro-decisions, personality responsibility, and mini-habits. Your own biology will not let you improve your life in any other way. What do you currently value? What are working to attain? Have you been taught to value your job title or your relationship with some other person above all else? Have you been convinced that the most valuable things in life are your paycheck, the number of people who say 'hello' to you at the office, and the number of people who say 'I need you' at home? Or, have you become so passive in what you value that you let anyone and anything into your life, as long as whatever you let in allows you to stay disconnected from the cold hard truth that when things really go wrong in your life, the only person who will be able to fix it and the only person will be responsible for it is you. If so…welcome to fake success. Passivity, dependence, and the sacrifice of practical thinking and personal responsibility to fuzzy, grandiose ideals and temporary feelings — these are markers of fake success. Intelligent Achievement, on the other hand, is not a moving target. It's not empty either. Instead, it's sturdy, full, and immovable. It's not something that's just handed to you. It's not something you're nudged to chase or coerced into wanting. Intelligent Achievement comes from within you. It's a collection of values that are aligned with who you are—values you have to protect and nurture. These values do not increase your dependence on other people and things. Instead, they relieve you of dependence. This kind of achievement is something that you have a part in building from the ground up—you know what's in it—you chose it, someone else didn't choose it for you. Achieving real success means you must focus, create, and grow daily. The Science of Intelligent Achievement will show you how. |
| codependent no more worksheets: Love Smacked: How to Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency to Find Everlasting Love Sherry Gaba, 2020-02-20 After Rihanna and Alanis Morissette and Amber Smith and Rachel Uchitel, we've all heard about love addiction--people who feel they can only be happy when they are deep in an all-consuming love. There are a handful of books about it (including Facing Love Addiction by Pia Melody, Women Who Love Too Much by Robin Norwood, Love Addict by Ethlie Ann Vare, and others), and many rehab and recovery centers are now advertising that they help clients with love addictions and codependency. But no one has approached the subject of its equally damaging cousin--relationship addiction. Relationship addicts are so in love with love with love and romance and being coupled up that they continually move from one relationship to another, always on the rebound, never giving themselves time to heal and learn how to be independent. They get into relationships again and again, just to avoid feeling lonely--or worse, to avoid feeling abnormal. Love Smacked will address all of these issues, looking at early childhood trauma and how that affects our subsequent choices in partners, and how we approach love and relationships. It will discuss the lessons we learn from our upbringing and social and cultural background--lessons that sometimes teach us what healthy relationships look like, but sometimes teach us something else: that we don't deserve any better; that a typical relationship looks turbulent and difficu This is an important book. Sherry Gaba clearly identifies a common pattern in relationships and shows the negative results on relationships of self-abandonment. --Margaret Paul, PhD, Co-Creator of Inner Bonding |
| codependent no more worksheets: The Swiss Cheese Theory of Life Judith Belmont, Lora Shore, 2012 The Swiss Cheese Theory of Life is a book about Resiliency. Using Swiss Cheese as a metaphor for life itself, we explore ways to get through the holes rather than get stuck in them. Swiss is not like any other cheese and neither are you! This book will give you an opportunity to learn quick, easy and effective skills that will last a lifetime. Take a bite into The Swiss Cheese Theory of Life and experience a new and better way of living right now. |
| codependent no more worksheets: Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them Susan Forward, Joan Torres, 2011-07-20 Is this the way love is supposed to feel? • Does the man you love assume the right to control how you live and behave? • Have you given up important activities or people to keep him happy? • Is he extremely jealous and possessive? • Does he switch from charm to anger without warning? • Does he belittle your opinions, your feelings, or your accomplishments? • Does he withdraw love, money, approval, or sex to punish you? • Does he blame you for everything that goes wrong in the relationship? • Do you find yourself “walking on eggs” and apologizing all the time? If the questions here reveal a familiar pattern, you may be in love with a misogynist — a man who loves you, yet causes you tremendous pain because he acts as if he hates you. In this superb self-help guide, Dr. Susan Forward draws on case histories and the voices of men and women trapped in these negative relationships to help you understand your man’s destructive pattern and the part you play in it. She shows how to break the pattern, heal the hurt, regain your self-respect, and either rebuild your relationship or find the courage to love a truly loving man. BONUS: This edition contains an excerpt from Susan Forward's Toxic Parents. |
| codependent no more worksheets: The CBT Workbook for Perfectionism Sharon Martin, 2019-01-02 If you feel an intense pressure to be perfect, this evidence-based workbook offers real strategies based in cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) to help you develop a more balanced and healthy perspective. Do you hold yourself—and perhaps others—to extremely high standards? Do you procrastinate certain tasks because you’re afraid you won’t carry them out perfectly? If you’ve answered “yes” to one or both of these questions, chances are you’re a perfectionist. And while there’s nothing wrong with hard work and high standards, perfectionism can also take over your life if you let it. So, how can you find balance? With this workbook, you’ll identify the causes of your perfectionism and the ways it is negatively impacting your life. Rather than measuring your self-worth by productivity and accomplishments, you’ll learn to exercise self-compassion, and extend that compassion to others. You’ll also learn ways to prioritize the things that really matter to you, without focusing on attaining fixed goals. Life isn’t perfect, and neither are we. If you’re ready to break free from out-of-control perfectionism and start living a richer, fuller life, this workbook will help you get started. |
| codependent no more worksheets: Trapped in the Mirror Elan Golomb, PhD, 2012-06-19 In this compelling book, Elan Golomb identifies the crux of the emotional and psychological problems of millions of adults. Simply put, the children of narcissist—offspring of parents whose interest always towered above the most basic needs of their sons and daughters—share a common belief: They believe they do not have the right to exist. The difficulties experienced by adult children of narcissists can manifest themselves in many ways: for examples, physical self-loathing that takes form of overeating, anorexia, or bulimia; a self-destructive streak that causes poor job performance and rocky personal relationships; or a struggle with the self that is perpetuated in the adult's interaction with his or her own children. These dilemmas are both common and correctable, Dr. Golomb tells us. With an empathic blend of scholarship and case studies, along with her own personal narrative of her fight for self, Dr. Golomb plumbs the depths of this problem, revealing its mysterious hold on the affairs of otherwise bright, aware, motivated, and worthy people. Trapped in the Mirror explores. the nature of the paralysis and lack of motivation so many adults feel stress and its role in exacerbating childhood wrongs why do many of our relationships seem to be reruns of the past how one's body image can be formed by faulty parenting how anger must be acknowledge to be overcome and, most important, how even the most traumatized self can be healed. Rooted in a profoundly humanist traditional approach, and suffused with the benefit of the latest knowledge about intrafamily relationships, Trapped in the Mirror offers more than the average self-help book; it is truly the first self-heal book for millions. |
| codependent no more worksheets: Codependent No More Anon Anon, 2022-02-15 The #1 bestseller that has helped heal millions of readers, this modern classic holds the key to understanding codependency and unlocking its hold on your life. Melody Beattie's compassionate and insightful look into codependency--the concept of losing oneself in the name of helping another-- has helped millions of readers understand that they are powerless to change anyone but themselves and that caring for the self is where healing begins. Is someone else's problem your problem? If, like so many others, you've lost sight of your own life in the drama of tending to a loved one's self-destructive behavior, you may be codependent--and you may find yourself in this book. With instructive life stories, personal reflections, exercises, and self-tests, Codependent No More helps you to break old patterns, maintain healthy boundaries, and say no to unhealthy relationships. It offers a clear and achievable path to freedom and a lifetime of healing, hope, and happiness. This ground-breaking book is even more relevant today, as readers confront new, urgent challenges with greater self-awareness, than it was when it first entered the national conversation over 35 years ago. |
| codependent no more worksheets: The Intimacy Factor Pia Mellody, Lawrence S. Freundlich, 2009-10-13 In her first book in over 10 years, Pia Mellody—author of the groundbreaking bestsellers Facing Codependence and Facing Love Addiction—shares her profound wisdom on what it takes to sustain true intimacy and trusting love in our most vital relationships. Drawing on more than 20 years' experience as a counsellor at the renowned Meadows Treatment Centre in Arizona, Mellody now shares what she has learned about why intimate relationships falter—and what makes them work. Using the most up–to–date research and real–life examples, including her own compelling personal journey, Mellody provides readers with profoundly insightful and practical ground rules for relationships that achieve and maintain joyous intimacy. This invaluable resource helps diagnose the causes of faulty relationships—many of them rooted in childhood—and provides tools for readers to heal themselves, enabling them to establish and maintain healthy relationships. |
| codependent no more worksheets: Awakening Hope. a Developmental, Behavioral, Biological Approach to Codependency Treatment. Mary Crocker Cook, 2011-06-01 Awakening Hope is based on the premise that codependency stems from early attachment disruptions, leading to ongoing anxious and avoidant attachment styles. These styles create a series of defensive behaviors in response to a foundational distrust of attachment that pervades every relationship. 216 pp. |
Are You Codependent? 13 Signs of Codependency - Psych Central
Dec 18, 2024 · If you wonder how to know if you or someone else are codependent, here are the main codependency symptoms in relationships and how to deal.
Codependency - Psychology Today
Healthy relationships are mutually beneficial, providing love and support to both parties. Codependent relationships, on the other hand, are one-sided, casting one person in the role of …
Codependency - Wikipedia
The term codependent was first used to describe persons whose lives were affected through their involvement with a person with a substance use disorder, resulting in the development of a …
Codependency: How to Recognize the Signs - Verywell Mind
May 21, 2024 · Codependency in a relationship is when each person involved is mentally, emotionally, physically, and/or spiritually reliant on the other. A codependent relationship can …
Codependency: Signs and Symptoms - WebMD
Mar 1, 2024 · Codependency, or relationship addiction, is an excessive, all-consuming dependency on a specific relationship. Most codependent relationships involve some form of underlying …
Codependency: Symptoms, Causes, Treatment, and More - Verywell Health
Aug 8, 2023 · Being codependent means having an unhealthy attachment to a specific person. It's often a romantic partner, but not always. Codependency can also occur in friendships, between …
What Is Codependency? 20 Signs & Symptoms
Dec 20, 2023 · Codependency involves excessive emotional reliance on others and struggling with boundaries. It is rooted in trauma, neglect, or substance abuse and can lead to low self-worth, …
Co-Dependency - Mental Health America
Co-dependency is a learned behavior that can be passed down from one generation to another. It is an emotional and behavioral condition that affects an individual’s ability to have a healthy, …
Spotting the signs of Codependency - Mental Health Hotline
The codependent person may begin to feel unappreciated, overworked or emotionally drained. Even if they don’t express it, this hidden frustration can quietly grow and damage the relationship. …
10 Signs You’re Codependent and How to Break Free
Mar 28, 2025 · Wondering if your relationship is codependent or how to stop being codependent? This guide covers everything you need to know.
Are You Codependent? 13 Signs of Codependency - Psych Central
Dec 18, 2024 · If you wonder how to know if you or someone else are codependent, here are the main codependency symptoms in relationships and how to deal.
Codependency - Psychology Today
Healthy relationships are mutually beneficial, providing love and support to both parties. Codependent relationships, on the other hand, are one-sided, casting one person in the role of …
Codependency - Wikipedia
The term codependent was first used to describe persons whose lives were affected through their involvement with a person with a substance use disorder, resulting in the development of a …
Codependency: How to Recognize the Signs - Verywell Mind
May 21, 2024 · Codependency in a relationship is when each person involved is mentally, emotionally, physically, and/or spiritually reliant on the other. A codependent relationship can …
Codependency: Signs and Symptoms - WebMD
Mar 1, 2024 · Codependency, or relationship addiction, is an excessive, all-consuming dependency on a specific relationship. Most codependent relationships involve some form of …
Codependency: Symptoms, Causes, Treatment, and More - Verywell Health
Aug 8, 2023 · Being codependent means having an unhealthy attachment to a specific person. It's often a romantic partner, but not always. Codependency can also occur in friendships, …
What Is Codependency? 20 Signs & Symptoms
Dec 20, 2023 · Codependency involves excessive emotional reliance on others and struggling with boundaries. It is rooted in trauma, neglect, or substance abuse and can lead to low self …
Co-Dependency - Mental Health America
Co-dependency is a learned behavior that can be passed down from one generation to another. It is an emotional and behavioral condition that affects an individual’s ability to have a healthy, …
Spotting the signs of Codependency - Mental Health Hotline
The codependent person may begin to feel unappreciated, overworked or emotionally drained. Even if they don’t express it, this hidden frustration can quietly grow and damage the …
10 Signs You’re Codependent and How to Break Free
Mar 28, 2025 · Wondering if your relationship is codependent or how to stop being codependent? This guide covers everything you need to know.
