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| couples therapy after divorce: Helping Couples on the Brink of Divorce William Joseph Doherty, Steven Michael Harris, 2017 This book presents a five-session protocol for distressed couples to learn about what has happened to their relationship and each person's contributions to the problems, with the goal of clarifying a direction for their marriage |
| couples therapy after divorce: Divorce Busting Michele Weiner Davis, 1993-02 A step-by-step approach to making your marriage loving again. |
| couples therapy after divorce: The Storms Can't Hurt the Sky Gabriel Cohen, 2009-03-12 Buddhism has been applied to everything from parenting to golf, but until now no one has offered Buddhist principles as a healing path through divorce. In Storms Can't Hurt the Sky, Gabriel Cohen bravely delves into his personal experience-along with insights from Buddhist masters, parables, humor, social science studies, and interviews with other divorces-to provide a practical and very helpful guide to surviving the pain of any break-up. Focusing on the emotions most common in the dissolution of a relationship-anger, resentment, loss, and grief -- Storms Can't Hurt the Sky shows how thinking about these feelings in surprisingly different ways can lead to a radically better experience. This compulsively readable book offers sound advice and much-needed empathy for anyone dealing with a break-up. |
| couples therapy after divorce: Perspectives of Divorced Therapists Tanya Radecker, 2018-07-04 Through interviews with divorced therapists from diverse cultures, philosophies, and generations, this book explores how a therapist’s divorce impacts their work with clients in couples therapy. Interviewees speak of their own experiences with trauma recovery, countertransference, self-disclosure, resilience, and other issues during and after divorce. These experiences are also correlated to previous studies exploring the counseling process and variables that might affect the outcome. Through the stories of other professionals, therapists will gain insight into developing self-awareness and utilizing the person-of-the-therapist model to successfully navigate the impact of their own life crisis as they work with clients. This text will provide enlightenment and courage for divorced or divorcing therapists, as well as any therapist who lives through the experience of managing their own relationship struggles while continuing to lean in and support their clients. |
| couples therapy after divorce: The New I Do Susan Pease Gadoua, Vicki Larson, 2014-09-23 If half of all cars bought in America each year broke down, there would be a national uproar. But when people suggest that maybe every single marriage doesn't look like the next and isn't meant to last until death, there's nothing but a rash of proposed laws trying to force it to do just that. In The New I Do, therapist Susan Pease Gadoua and journalist Vicki Larson take a groundbreaking look at the modern shape of marriage to help readers open their minds to marrying more consciously and creatively. Offering actual models of less-traditional marriages, including everything from a parenting marriage (intended for the sake of raising and nurturing children) to a comfort or safety marriage (where people marry for financial security or companionship), the book covers unique options for couples interested in forging their own paths. With advice to help listeners decide what works for them, The New I Doacts as a guide to thinking outside the marital box and the framework for a new debate on marriage in the 21st century. |
| couples therapy after divorce: Marriage That Works Chip Ingram, 2019-02-05 When it comes to marriage these days, anything goes. No wonder you can find a book on marriage from every perspective--or no perspective. How can you experience a great marriage that lasts? What works? This book answers that question by shining a light on the biblical design for marriage. In a world of sexual and relational confusion, isn't it time to consult the One who created marriage? Author and pastor Chip Ingram, with his characteristic compassion, transparency, and engaging storytelling, discusses - what marriage really is - the biblical model - a man's unique role in marriage - a woman's unique role in marriage - the bigger picture of why God created marriage A marriage that works, says Ingram, is more wonderful than you thought possible and harder than you imagined--but worth the work. Couples will learn the power of making a covenant with their spouse and fulfilling their design in an atmosphere of respect, resulting in the spiritual, psychological, emotional, and physical oneness they long to have with each other. |
| couples therapy after divorce: How To Save Your Marriage In 3 Simple Steps Lee H Baucom Ph D, Lee H. Baucom, 2013-10 This book presents Lee Baucom's system for saving your marriage in three easy steps: connecting with your spouse, changing yourself, and creating a new path. |
| couples therapy after divorce: Healing Hearts Elizabeth Hickey, Elizabeth A. Dalton, 1994 Divided into three parts, this book was written to foster healing for divorcing parents and to help divorcing couples support their children. Part one deals with interpersonal issues and individual growth. The reader is lead through the personal processes of divorce; actions parents can take to help themselves and their children adjust to the situation are highlighted. Some of the topics covered here include shared parenting, a child's perspective, repairing the damage, security and reassurance, domestic violence, difficult divorces, and redefining the family. Part two examines the legal system. It is hoped that by demystifying the legal process, divorce will become less frustrating and will afford the individual more choices. Some of the issues addressed here are legal issues in parenting, the mechanics of co-parenting, and finances and the reality of divorce. In part three, entitled Medicine for the Heart, children share their experiences with divorce. Over 50 children were interviewed about their parents' divorce and how it affected them. They offer advice to parents about how to make divorce easier on other children. (RJM) |
| couples therapy after divorce: Splitopia Wendy Paris, 2016-03-15 Packed with research, insights, and illuminating (and often funny) examples from Paris’s own divorce experience, this book is a “practical and reassuring guide to parting well.” —Gretchen Rubin, author of The Happiness Project Engaging and revolutionary, filled with wit, searing honesty, and intimate interviews, Splitopia is a call for a saner, more civil kind of divorce. As Paris reveals, divorce has improved dramatically in recent decades due to changes in laws and family structures, advances in psychology and child development, and a new understanding of the importance of the father. Positive psychology expert and author of Happier, Tal Ben-Shahar, writes that Paris’s “personal insights, stories, and research” create “a smart and interesting guide that can be extremely helpful for those going through divorce.” Reading this book can be the difference between an expensive, ugly battle and a decent divorce, between children sucked under by conflict or happy, healthy kids. This is “a compelling case that it’s high time for a new definition of Happily Ever After—for everyone” (Brigid Schulte, author of Overwhelmed: Work, Love, and Play When No One Has the Time). |
| couples therapy after divorce: Magnetic Partners Stephen Betchen, 2010-05-18 Do you and your partner argue about the same things over and over again? Are you often confused about why your partner is so angry with you? Are things getting worse and worse even though you’ve tried everything you can think of to make them better? In this breakthrough guide to repairing romantic relationships, therapist and marriage researcher Dr. Stephen Betchen presents a powerful new explanation of what leads to this kind of escalating conflict in couples and how you can repair your relationship and find a whole new level of happiness. Based on his extensive experience as a couples’ therapist, Dr. Betchen has discovered that the prevailing idea that opposites attract is wrong. Instead, one of the strongest forces that attracts people to one another is that they share a hidden, inner conflict in their lives—an unconscious struggle within themselves that each of them developed growing up—which he calls a master conflict. The fact that a couple shares a master conflict acts as an almost magnetic force of attraction, but, over time, master conflicts often begin to push a pair apart—many of the very things you most appreciated about each other start to grate on you, producing increasing hostility. The good news is that by identifying the master conflict that you share, you and your partner can take the steps to break the cycle of fighting and come to a new place of understanding and happiness in your relationship. Often, just the realization that you have this hidden conflict acts as a powerful cure, allowing you to appreciate each other once again and to be empathetic about the things that have been irritating you both. From his years of work with couples, Betchen has identified the nineteen most common master conflicts—such as getting your needs met vs. caretaking; giving vs. withholding; commitment vs. freedom; power vs. passivity—and for each he provides vivid stories of couples who have struggled with them, as well as simple tests that help you to: • Identify the core master conflict that is causing your relationship problems • Understand the origins of your conflict and how it drew you to your partner • Diagnose how the conflict is now pushing you apart • Come to new terms with the conflict to save your relationship As Dr. Betchen writes, knowledge of a master conflict is power, and Magnetic Partners is an empowering guide that will help you not only to identify and control your master conflict, but also to bring your relationship to a new level based on deeper understanding, ultimately leading to greater fulfillment and long-term resilience. Partners |
| couples therapy after divorce: The Life-Saving Divorce Gretchen Baskerville, 2020-02 You Can Love God and Still Get a Divorce. And get this, God will still love you. Really. Are you in a destructive marriage? One of emotional, physical, or verbal abuse? Infidelity? Neglect? If yes, you know you need to escape, but you're probably worried about going against God's will. I have good news for you. You might need to divorce to save your life and sanity. And God is right beside you. In The Life-Saving Divorce You'll Learn: - How to know if you should stay or if you should go.- The four key Bible verses that support divorce for infidelity, neglect, and physical and/or emotional abuse. - Twenty-seven myths about divorce that aren't true for many Christians. - Why a divorce is likely the absolute best thing for your children. - How to deal with friends and family who disapprove of divorce. - How to find safe friends and churches after a divorce. Can you find happiness after leaving your destructive marriage? Absolutely yes! You can get your life back and flourish more than you thought possible. Are you ready? Then let's go. It's time to be free. This book includes multiple first-person interviews. Explains psychological abuse, gaslighting, the abuse cycle, Christian divorce and remarriage, children and divorce, domestic violence, parental alienation, mental abuse, and biblical reasons for divorce. Includes diagrams such as the Duluth Wheel of Power and Control (the Duluth Model) and the Abuse Cycle, as well as graphs based on Paul Amato's 2003 study analyzing Judith Wallerstein's book, The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce. Includes quotes by Leslie Vernick, Lundy Bancroft, Shannon Thomas, David Instone-Brewer, Natalie Hoffman, LifeWay Research, Kathleen Reay, Gottman Institute, Glenda Riley, Martin Luther, John Calvin, Steven Stosny, Michal Gilad, Leonie Westenberg, Nancy Nason-Clark, Julie Owens, Marg Mowczko, Justin Holcomb, Barna Group, Justin Lehmiller, Alan Hawkins, Brian Willoughby, William Doherty, Brad Wright, Bradford Wilcox, Sheila Gregoire, E Mavis Hetherington, John Kelly, Betsey Stevenson, Justin Wolfers, Norm Wright, Virginia Rutter, Judith Herman, and Bessel van der Kolk. Recommended reading list includes: Henry Cloud, John Townsend Boundaries books, Richard Warshack books. |
| couples therapy after divorce: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work John Gottman, PhD, Nan Silver, 2015-05-05 NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • Over a million copies sold! “An eminently practical guide to an emotionally intelligent—and long-lasting—marriage.”—Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work has revolutionized the way we understand, repair, and strengthen marriages. John Gottman’s unprecedented study of couples over a period of years has allowed him to observe the habits that can make—and break—a marriage. Here is the culmination of that work: the seven principles that guide couples on a path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Straightforward yet profound, these principles teach partners new approaches for resolving conflicts, creating new common ground, and achieving greater levels of intimacy. Gottman offers strategies and resources to help couples collaborate more effectively to resolve any problem, whether dealing with issues related to sex, money, religion, work, family, or anything else. Packed with new exercises and the latest research out of the esteemed Gottman Institute, this revised edition of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential. |
| couples therapy after divorce: Marriage, Divorce and Remarriage Jim Newheiser, 2017 Drawing on decades of counseling experience, Jim Newheiser explores forty crucial questions relating to the complexities of marriage, divorce, and remarriage--unpacking the answers given in God's Word. This useful reference work for pastors, counselors, and personal study can also be read straight through for a scriptural overview of the topic or assigned in small sections to counselees. -- |
| couples therapy after divorce: And Baby Makes Three John Gottman, PhD, Julie Schwartz Gottman, PhD, 2007-01-09 Having a baby is a joyous experience, but even the best relationships are strained during the transition from duo to trio. Lack of sleep, never-ending housework, and new fiscal concerns often lead to conflict, disappointment, and hurt feelings. In And Baby Makes Three Love Lab™ experts John Gottman and Julie Schwartz Gottman teach couples the skills from their successful workshops, so partners can avoid the pitfalls of parenthood by: • maintaining intimacy and romance • replacing a culture of criticism and irritability with one of appreciation • preventing post-partum depression • creating a home environment that nurtures physical, emotional, and mental health, as well as cognitive and behavioral development for your baby Complete with exercises that separate the “master” from the “disaster” couples, And Baby Makes Three helps new parents positively manage the strain that comes along with their bundle of joy. |
| couples therapy after divorce: The Divorce Remedy Michele Weiner Davis, 2002-09-04 Provides advice for couples contemplating divorce who still hope to save their marriages, and suggests ways to deal with infidelity, depression, a midlife crisis, sexual problems, and other common issues. |
| couples therapy after divorce: Zero to Five Tracy Cutchlow, 2015-04-21 When you’re a new parent, the miracle of life might not always feel so miraculous. Maybe your latest 2:00 a.m., 2:45 a.m., and 3:30 a.m. wake-up calls have left you wondering how “sleep like a baby” ever became a figure of speech—and what the options are for restoring your sanity. Or your child just left bite marks on someone, and you’re wondering how to handle it. First-time mom Tracy Cutchlow knows what you’re going through. In Zero to Five: 70 Essential Parenting Tips Based on Science (and What I’ve Learned So Far), she takes dozens of parenting tips based on scientific research and distills them into something you can easily digest during one of your two-minute-long breaks in the day. The pages are beautifully illustrated by award-winning photojournalist Betty Udesen. Combining the warmth of a best friend with a straightforward style, Tracy addresses questions such as: Should I talk to my pregnant belly / newborn? Is that going to feel weird? (Yes, and absolutely.) How do I help baby sleep well? (Start with the 45-minute rule.) How can I instill a love of learning in my child? (By using specific types of praise and criticism.) What will boost my child’s success in school? (Play that requires self-control, like make-believe.) My baby loves videos and cell-phone games. That’s cool, right? (If you play, too.) What tamps down temper tantrums? (Naming emotions out loud.) My sweet baby just hit a playmate / lied to me about un-potting the plant / talked back. Now what? (Choose one of three logical consequences.) How do I get through an entire day of this? (With help. Lots of help.) Who knew babies were so funny? (They are!) Whether you read the book front to back or skip around, Zero to Five will help you make the best of the tantrums (yours and baby’s), moments of pure joy, and other surprises along the totally-worth-it journey of parenting. |
| couples therapy after divorce: Surviving and Thriving in Stepfamily Relationships Patricia L. Papernow, 2013-06-07 Surviving and Thriving in Stepfamily Relationships is designed to be useful both to stepfamily members themselves and to a wide variety of practitioners, as well as to educators, judges, mediators, lawyers and medical personnel. |
| couples therapy after divorce: Love Cycles, Fear Cycles David Woodsfellow, Deborah Woodsfellow, 2018-03-27 Love Cycles, Fear Cycles teaches readers the most important idea in all of couples therapy. This idea gives readers a new understanding of what’s been going wrong in their marriage – and a new way to make things right. The key idea is changing a couple’s negative cycle back into their positive cycle. Most relationships start in a positive cycle, where both people feel wonderful and respond lovingly. There are four words that describe each couple’s positive cycle – one for each person’s good feeling, and one for each person’s loving response. However, as challenges arise, people instinctively respond with some type of fight or flight. Over time, these responses spiral together into a negative cycle where each person feels bad and responds defensively. There are four words for each couple’s negative cycle – one for each person’s worst feeling, and one for each person’s defensive reaction. Many couples get trapped in their negative cycle and their relationship spirals deeper into hurt and loneliness. To have a good marriage, a couple needs to find a way out of their negative cycle and back into their positive cycle. Love Cycles, Fear Cycles teaches readers how to do that. From his decades as a couples therapist, Dr. Woodsfellow has distilled this one most-essential component of all successful marriage counseling. He now presents this to the general public in a way that is easy to understand and easy to use. |
| couples therapy after divorce: Exaholics Lisa Marie Bobby, 2016-02-10 Severing a cherished relationship is one of the most painful experiences in life—and cutting those emotional ties to a loved one can feel almost like ending an addiction. Up till now, people recovering from other problems were able to get real help—like AA and rehab—while those struggling in the aftermath of traumatic breaks dealt with platitudes and friends insisting they should get over it already. But now Exaholics Anonymous treats getting over an ex like kicking a chemical habit. Written by counselor and therapist Dr. Lisa Bobby, Exaholics offers meaningful support and advice to anyone trapped in the obsessive pain of a broken, or dying, attachment. She helps the brokenhearted heal, showing them, on a deep level, how to develop a conceptual framework for their experience, understand the emotional processes at work inside themselves, find the path to recovery, and free themselves of shame, injured ego, and remorse. In-depth case studies of others' journeys will illuminate the way to future happiness. |
| couples therapy after divorce: The SAGE Encyclopedia of Marriage, Family, and Couples Counseling Jon Carlson, Shannon B. Dermer, 2016-09-15 The SAGE Encyclopedia of Marriage, Family and Couples Counseling is a new, all-encompassing, landmark work for researchers seeking to broaden their knowledge of this vast and diffuse field. Marriage and family counseling programs are established at institutions worldwide, yet there is no current work focused specifically on family therapy. While other works have discussed various methodologies, cases, niche aspects of the field and some broader views of counseling in general, this authoritative Encyclopedia provides readers with a fully comprehensive and accessible reference to aid in understanding the full scope and diversity of theories, approaches, and techniques and how they address various life events within the unique dynamics of families, couples, and related interpersonal relationships. Key topics include: Assessment Communication Coping Diversity Interventions and Techniques Life Events/Transitions Sexuality Work/Life Issues, and more Key features include: More than 500 signed articles written by key figures in the field span four comprehensive volumes Front matter includes a Reader’s Guide that groups related entries thematically Back matter includes a history of the development of the field, a Resource Guide to key associations, websites, and journals, a selected Bibliography of classic publications, and a detailed Index All entries conclude with Further Readings and Cross References to related entries to aid the reader in their research journey |
| couples therapy after divorce: The Conscious Parent's Guide to Coparenting Jenna Flowers, 2016-06-01 A positive, mindful plan for children and parents in transition! If you're facing the challenge of raising children in two homes, you may be feeling overwhelmed and unsure of how to build a healthy coparenting relationship. With The Conscious Parent's Guide to Coparenting, you'll learn how to take a relationship-centered approach to parenting, foster forgiveness, and find constructive ways to move on when relationships change. Coparenting means putting your child's needs first. And conscious parenting acknowledges a child's thoughts, feelings, and needs, as well as a parent's responsibility to them. This easy-to-use handbook helps you to: Build a coparenting relationship based on mutual respect Lower stress levels for the entire family Communicate openly with children about divorce Discuss and reach parenting decisions together Protect children, meet their needs, and help them build resilience Educate your family and friends about coparenting The concept of ending a marriage peacefully, with compassion and respect for former partners, is often viewed with surprise in modern society. But choosing to consciously coparent is an important choice you can make for yourself and your children--one that will benefit the emotional health of your family for years to come. |
| couples therapy after divorce: Fair Play Eve Rodsky, 2021-01-05 AN INSTANT NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • A REESE'S BOOK CLUB PICK Tired, stressed, and in need of more help from your partner? Imagine running your household (and life!) in a new way... It started with the Sh*t I Do List. Tired of being the “shefault” parent responsible for all aspects of her busy household, Eve Rodsky counted up all the unpaid, invisible work she was doing for her family—and then sent that list to her husband, asking for things to change. His response was...underwhelming. Rodsky realized that simply identifying the issue of unequal labor on the home front wasn't enough: She needed a solution to this universal problem. Her sanity, identity, career, and marriage depended on it. The result is Fair Play: a time- and anxiety-saving system that offers couples a completely new way to divvy up domestic responsibilities. Rodsky interviewed more than five hundred men and women from all walks of life to figure out what the invisible work in a family actually entails and how to get it all done efficiently. With 4 easy-to-follow rules, 100 household tasks, and a series of conversation starters for you and your partner, Fair Play helps you prioritize what's important to your family and who should take the lead on every chore, from laundry to homework to dinner. “Winning” this game means rebalancing your home life, reigniting your relationship with your significant other, and reclaiming your Unicorn Space—the time to develop the skills and passions that keep you interested and interesting. Stop drowning in to-dos and lose some of that invisible workload that's pulling you down. Are you ready to try Fair Play? Let's deal you in. |
| couples therapy after divorce: What Makes Love Last? John Gottman, John Mordechai Gottman, Nan Silver, 2013-09-10 One of the foremost relationship experts at work today offers creative insight on building trust and avoiding betrayal, helping readers to decode the mysteries of healthy love and relationships-- |
| couples therapy after divorce: Should I Stay Or Go? Lee Raffel, 1999 Until now, couples facing the dilemma of deciding whether or not to stay in an unhappy marriage had three options: individual or couples therapy, separation, or divorce. Should I Stay or Go? provides these couples with a fourth option--the Controlled Separation (CS). CS is a compassionate process that is designed to build respect and foster advocacy between spouses. The book explains the CS guidelines, including the 12 fundamental issues that must be resolved for a workable, orderly separation. It also contains sample contracts, along with helpful checklists and self-assessment tools. |
| couples therapy after divorce: The Enlightened Marriage Jed Diamond, 2016-08-22 Love and marriage are two of the greatest gifts life has to offer, yet too many marriages fail because couples don’t fully understand the five stages of relationships. Because most of us have had hurtful experiences in past relationships, often going back to childhood, we develop an inaccurate love map that causes us to get off track when the stresses of life increase. For more than 40 years, Jed Diamond has been helping couples repair even the most damaged relationships and reweave the broken strands of marriage. In The Enlightened Marriage, Dr. Diamond will help you: Get through Stage Three—Disillusionment without losing your love. Understand that when your partner says, “I love you, but I’m not in love with you anymore,” it is not the end, but the beginning of Stage Four—Real Lasting Love. Learn why healing childhood wounds is the greatest gift of love you can give and receive from your partner. Recognize and address the mid-life stresses of “manopause,” irritable male syndrome, and male-type depression. Follow your calling in Stage Five to make a real difference in the world. |
| couples therapy after divorce: Betrayal Trauma Recovery Anne Blythe, 2019-05-05 A daily journal for women wondering if their husband's behavior is abusive. For women trying to determine if they should leave or stay. To help women decide if they want to divorce. A daily journal to help victims understand the reality and severity of their situation. For women who are considering separation or divorce due to their husband's lying, gaslighting, infidelity, emotional abuse, narcissistic behaviors. Visit btr.org for more information, and listen to the Betrayal Trauma Recovery podcast found on iTunes, Google Play, Spotify and other podcasting platforms. |
| couples therapy after divorce: The Five Love Languages Gary Chapman, 2009-12-17 Marriage should be based on love, right? But does it seem as though you and your spouse are speaking two different languages? #1 New York Times bestselling author Dr. Gary Chapman guides couples in identifying, understanding, and speaking their spouse's primary love language-quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, or physical touch. By learning the five love languages, you and your spouse will discover your unique love languages and learn practical steps in truly loving each other. Chapters are categorized by love language for easy reference, and each one ends with simple steps to express a specific language to your spouse and guide your marriage in the right direction. A newly designed love languages assessment will help you understand and strengthen your relationship. You can build a lasting, loving marriage together. Gary Chapman hosts a nationally syndicated daily radio program called A Love Language Minute that can be heard on more than 150 radio stations as well as the weekly syndicated program Building Relationships with Gary Chapman, which can both be heard on fivelovelanguages.com. The Five Love Languages is a consistent New York Times bestseller - with over 5 million copies sold and translated into 38 languages. This book is a sales phenomenon, with each year outselling the prior for 16 years running! |
| couples therapy after divorce: This Is How Your Marriage Ends Matthew Fray, 2022-03-22 A thoughtful, down-to-earth, contemporary guide to help partners identify and address relationship-killing behavior patterns in their own lives. Good people can be bad at relationships. One night during his divorce, after one too many vodkas and a call with a phone-in-therapist who told him to “journal his feelings,” Matthew Fray started a blog. He needed to figure out how his ex-wife went from the eighteen-year-old college freshman who adored him to the angry woman who thought he was an asshole and left him. As he pieced together the story of his marriage and its end, Matthew began to realize a hard truth: even though he was a decent guy, he was a bad husband. As he shared raw, uncomfortable, and darkly humorous first-person stories about the lessons he’d learned from his failed marriage, a peculiar thing happened. Matthew started to gain a following. In January 2016 a post he wrote—“She Divorced Me Because I left the Dishes by the Sink”—went viral and was read over four million times. Filtered through the lens of his own surprising, life-changing experience and his years counseling couples, This Is How Your Marriage Ends exposes the root problem of so many relationships that go wrong. We simply haven’t been taught any of the necessary skills, Matthew explains. In fact, it is sometimes the assumption that we are acting on good intentions that causes us to alienate our partners and foment mistrust. With the humorous, entertaining, and counterintuitive approach of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, and the practical insights of The 5 Love Languages, This is How Your Marriage Ends helps readers identify relationship-killing behavior patterns in their own lives, and offers solutions to break free from the cycles of dysfunction and destruction. It is must-read for every partner no matter what stage–beginning, middle, or even end—of your relationship. |
| couples therapy after divorce: First, Kill All the Marriage Counselors Laura Doyle, 2015 Every marriage has its rough patches. If you're wondering how to repair yours, step away from the therapist, put down the magazine, and pick up this book. If you want to build a long, happy, fulfilling marriage, why not learn from the women who've done it? Laura Doyle's marriage was in trouble. After five years, her husband had become distant. He seemed checked out of their relationship, preferring watching TV to making love. There were frequent fights that ended with tense silences and even threats of divorce. Marriage counseling actually made their problems worse. Each session seemed to reinforce the feeling that she and her husband were just too far apart. Desperate to avoid divorcing the man she loved, Laura tried something different. Rather than consulting with experts or professionals, she simply started talking to women who'd been happily married for more than fifteen years. What she discovered shocked her. Everything she had heard in marriage counseling was wrong. Laura realized that there are some basic truths to relationships that can help women maintain loving, intimate marriages, such as: The happiness of your relationship is up to you! Women hold the keys to a happy relationship 95 percent of the time (and will learn what to do the other 5 percent). What men want most of all is to be treated with respect. Treat your man with respect (even if you aren't feeling it), and he will treat you with love and care. Your man wants to know he has your trust. Give it to him, and he'll realize you are special, because you will be! After seeing her own marriage transform, Laura set out to help other women do the same. In this book, you'll learn Laura's Six Intimacy Skills, which have been used by over 50,000 women who have transformed their previously unhappy marriages into blissful unions. Stop reading articles about how important it is to schedule date night, and learn how to transform your relationship into one bursting with energy, intimacy, and love. First, Kill All the Marriage Counselors will put you on the path to having the marriage you want with the man you love-- |
| couples therapy after divorce: In Quest of the Mythical Mate Ellyn Bader, Peter Pearson, 2013-05-13 In Quest of the Mythical Mate presents a valuable and fertile developmental model for diagnosing and treating couples that is flexible enough to incorporate a wide variety of intervention strategies, yet purposeful enough to give a clear sense of direction to couples in distress. As such, this volume provides a powerful therapeutic approach for all professionals who treat couples. |
| couples therapy after divorce: Primal Loss Leila Miller, 2017-05-20 Seventy now-adult children of divorce give their candid and often heart-wrenching answers to eight questions (arranged in eight chapters, by question), including: What were the main effects of your parents' divorce on your life? What do you say to those who claim that children are resilient and children are happy when their parents are happy? What would you like to tell your parents then and now? What do you want adults in our culture to know about divorce? What role has your faith played in your healing? Their simple and poignant responses are difficult to read and yet not without hope. Most of the contributors--women and men, young and old, single and married--have never spoken of the pain and consequences of their parents' divorce until now. They have often never been asked, and they believe that no one really wants to know. Despite vastly different circumstances and details, the similarities in their testimonies are striking; as the reader will discover, the death of a child's family impacts the human heart in universal ways. |
| couples therapy after divorce: Brazen Careerist Penelope Trunk, 2009-05-30 Are you taking long lunches? Ignoring sexual harassment? Do you keep your desk neat to the point of looking like you don't have enough to do? The answer to all three should be yes, if you want to succeed in your career on your own terms. Penelope Trunk, expert business advice columnist for the Boston Globe, gives anything but standard advice to help members of the X and Y generations succeed on their own terms in any industry. Trunk asserts that a take-charge attitude and thinking outside the box are the only ways to make it in today's job market. With 45 tips that will get you thinking bigger, acting bolder, and blazing trails you never thought possible, Brazen Careerist will forever change your career outlook. Guy Kawasaki, author of The Art of the Start Take everything you think you 'know' about career strategies, throw them away, and read this book because the rules have changed. 'Brazen,' 'counter-intuitive,' and 'radical' are the best three descriptions of Trunk's work. Life is too short to be stuck in a rat hole... Robert I. Sutton, Ph.D, author of the New York Times Bestseller The No Asshole Rule A delightful book, with some edgy advice that made me squirm a bit at times. I agreed with 90% of it, found myself arguing with the other 10%, and was completely engaged from start to finish. Paul D. Tieger, author of Do What You Are and CEO of SpeedReading People, LLC Penelope Trunk brings considerable savvy and a fresh new perspective to the business of career success. Bold and sometimes unconventional, Brazen Careerist gives readers much to think about as well as concrete, practical suggestions that will help them know what they want, and know how to get it. Keith Ferrazzi, bestselling author of Never Eat Alone: And Other Secrets to Success, One Relationship at a Time Brazen Careerist has the street-smarts you need to make your career and life work for you from the start. Read it now, or you'll wish you had when you're 40! |
| couples therapy after divorce: Therapy of the Difficult Divorce Marla Beth Isaacs, Braulio Montalvo, David Abelsohn, 2000 By integrating family therapy principles and individual dynamics, the authors have devised a unique method of face-to-face problem solving, sometimes with the entire family, often in sessions with individual members, to help restore parental responsibility and to realign relationships with the divorcing family. |
| couples therapy after divorce: Marriage Fitness Mort Fertel, 2004 Revolutionary step by step system marriage success. |
| couples therapy after divorce: Treating the Difficult Divorce Jay Lebow, 2018-11 Working in the territory of difficult divorce -- Divorce today -- Considerations in psychotherapy with clients contemplating divorce -- Working with families, couples, and individuals after the decision to divorce -- Structuring treatment in difficult divorce -- Specific treatment strategies in difficult divorce -- Interface interacting with the legal system and other professionals -- Special challenges and problems in difficult divorce -- Self-care for the therapists ¿s interface inin difficult divorce [au: changed per ida's email] -- Adaptations for less difficult divorces -- Case examples : working with difficult divorce -- References -- About the author -- Index |
| couples therapy after divorce: Mating in Captivity Esther Perel, 2007-10-30 One of the world’s most respected voices on erotic intelligence, Esther Perel offers a bold, provocative new take on intimacy and sex. Mating in Captivity invites us to explore the paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire, and explains what it takes to bring lust home. Drawing on more than twenty years of experience as a couples therapist, Perel examines the complexities of sustaining desire. Through case studies and lively discussion, Perel demonstrates how more exciting, playful, and even poetic sex is possible in long-term relationships. Wise, witty, and as revelatory as it is straightforward, Mating in Captivity is a sensational book that will transform the way you live and love. |
| couples therapy after divorce: Couple and Family Therapy Jay Lebow, 2014 This book surveys the state of the science and practice of today's couple and family therapy, looking beyond single models of treatment to instead present an integrative view of the field and its methods of practice. |
| couples therapy after divorce: Better Apart Gabrielle Hartley, Elena Brower, 2019-01-29 “Potent, accessible tools for your family and your future.” —Gwyneth Paltrow Marital strife and divorce can be your chance to profoundly transform yourself, your mindset and your relationship with a more harmonious and steady vision. While many of us may be better together, some of us can actually become better apart. What if you emerged from your divorce stronger and more resilient than ever before? Better Apart is the first book to apply the life-changing, healing wisdom of meditation and yoga, combined with practical advice, to help anyone going through the painful and seemingly intractable realities of divorce. Gabrielle Hartley and Elena Brower are warm and caring guides who can help you compassionately part from your partner. Whether your separation is amicable, or your ex is combative, Better Apart can help you find peace, calm, and hope. Blending practical advice from a legal perspective together with spiritual wisdom, Gabrielle and Elena are experts and realists who have created a simple five-step process that uses original meditations, perspective-shifting exercises, and fresh suggestions to help navigate the common legal and emotional pitfalls of divorce. Don’t worry if you’ve never tried yoga or mediation; Gabrielle’s insight buttressed by Elena’s practices and exercises are accessible for all. Together, they show you how to meaningfully shift your mindset and to move forward though any—or all—parts of this emotionally fraught process. Better Apart radically reframes the way couples experience, execute, and recover from when “for better or worse” is no longer an option, and helps you find the road to a new mindset and better life. |
| couples therapy after divorce: How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking about it Patricia Love, Steven Stosny, 2007-01-01 Offers practical suggestions for how to enhance a marriage, explains behaviors that can break up a marriage, and argues that talking about a relationship will not bring partners closer together. |
| couples therapy after divorce: You Got This Whitney Boole, 2019-03-15 This book is the friend you need to navigate a whole-hearted divorce and find healing and empowerment along the way. Whitney shares therapeutic tools here to create change and healing. She also shares, with humor and lightness, her stories from the trenches as a single mom who went through her own painful divorce. |
Helping Couples on the Brink of Divorce: Discernment …
On the last topic, we show how to switch from couples therapy to discernment counseling when divorce appears on the table during therapy, and then sometimes back to couples therapy …
The Divorce Workbook - Between Sessions
The Divorce Workbook: Therapeutic Homework Assignments to Recover and Move on After a Divorce by Angela M. Doel, MS Cover and Interior Design by Mike Canavan
Research on the Treatment of Couple Distress - Dr. Rebecca …
Findings over the dec-ade have been especially promising for integrative behavioral couples therapy and emo-tion-focused therapy, which are two evidence-based treatments for couples. …
RECOVERY FROM SEPARATION AND DIVORCE - Recovery …
Restored Lives helps people recover from relationship breakdown. By supporting people and their children through separation or divorce, when a relationship is beyond repair, we help reduce …
Treating the mixed-agenda couple - Psyberspace
This “couples therapy” generally peters out within a few sessions. (In my research, the typical divorcing couple with children has had four marriage-counseling sessions, just enough to feel …
Divorce Therapy: Helping Families Separate and Reorganize
-Couples therapy can be converted into divorce therapy (need for a clear division). -“Co-Parenting” therapy (perhaps court-ordered) can sometimes be converted into full-fledged …
Couples Therapy After Divorce (book)
Couples Therapy After Divorce: Helping Couples on the Brink of Divorce William Joseph Doherty,Steven Michael Harris,2017 This book presents a five session protocol for distressed …
Michele’s model is: - Brief Therapy Conference
about the best way to coach couples through the intensely emotional process. Today’s presentation, Healing from Infidelity, is based on over three decades of experience of helping …
THE HEALING SEPARATION: AN ALTERTNATIVE TO DIVORCE …
AN ALTERTNATIVE TO DIVORCE OR ENDING Adapted from Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends (2nd ed) by Bruce Fisher, PhD A Healing Separation is a structured time …
Divorce and Family Therapy: The Negative Effects of High …
divorce therapy. While marriage and family therapy has been established to help couples improve skills needed in a marriage, current research would behoove the modern counselor to consider …
SKILLS FOR COOPERATIVE PARENTING POST- DIVORCE
I. DIVORCE: A CHANGE PROCESS How will you know if you’ve adjusted, or adapted to the end of the relationship? For adults, adjustment involves three basic tasks. The first task is to …
The Use of Emotionally Focused Therapy with Separated or …
Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is one efective means of working with a couple who are separated or divorced. EFT is an empirically supported couples’ treatment that was developed …
Rebuilding Trust in Your Relationship - Between Sessions
When rebuilding trust, your relationship might look quite different after a major breach or infidelity, but it is possible to build something new together. Here are some suggestions or establishing …
The Efficacy of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy and …
Behavioral couple therapy (BCT) and emotionally focused couples therapy (EFCT) are well-established treatments to reduce couple distress. This meta-analysis summarizes the current …
Infidelity and Behavioral Couple Therapy: Relationship …
Results suggest two potential pathways for couples recovering from infidelity such that some infidelity couples continue to improve and remain indistinguishable from their noninfidelity …
chaPter 26 Legal and Ethical Issues in Couple Therapy - CE …
treating couples is considered common practice (Norcross et al., 2001), but it still presents us with unique ethical challenges that individual thera-pists do not encounter. To date, seven …
Deciding Not to Un-Do the I Do: A Qualitative Study of the …
further notes that often couples come into therapy when they have already decided to divorce and are looking to the counselor to help them break the news or get their permission.
June 8, 2015 Counseling Couples with a Trauma History
There are two empirically supported couple’s therapy approaches that have demonstrated efficacy when working with couples with histories of trauma: integrative behavioral couple therapy …
Rebuilding intimacy following infidelity - University of …
couples seeking therapy for infidelity. This model is based on the Intersystem’s Approach (Weeks, 1994), an integrative approach to couples therapy that provides a useful theoretical framework …
Discernment Counseling: Treating Couples Unsure About …
Many couples who come to the brink of divorce face the difficult “leaning in” and “leaning out” dynamic. Discernment counseling provides a helpful structure for diverging agendas and …
Helping Couples on the Brink of Divorce: Discernment …
On the last topic, we show how to switch from couples therapy to discernment counseling when divorce appears on the table during therapy, and then sometimes back to couples therapy …
The Divorce Workbook - Between Sessions
The Divorce Workbook: Therapeutic Homework Assignments to Recover and Move on After a Divorce by Angela M. Doel, MS Cover and Interior Design by Mike Canavan
Research on the Treatment of Couple Distress - Dr. Rebecca …
Findings over the dec-ade have been especially promising for integrative behavioral couples therapy and emo-tion-focused therapy, which are two evidence-based treatments for couples. …
RECOVERY FROM SEPARATION AND DIVORCE - Recovery …
Restored Lives helps people recover from relationship breakdown. By supporting people and their children through separation or divorce, when a relationship is beyond repair, we help reduce …
Treating the mixed-agenda couple - Psyberspace
This “couples therapy” generally peters out within a few sessions. (In my research, the typical divorcing couple with children has had four marriage-counseling sessions, just enough to feel …
Divorce Therapy: Helping Families Separate and Reorganize
-Couples therapy can be converted into divorce therapy (need for a clear division). -“Co-Parenting” therapy (perhaps court-ordered) can sometimes be converted into full-fledged …
Couples Therapy After Divorce (book)
Couples Therapy After Divorce: Helping Couples on the Brink of Divorce William Joseph Doherty,Steven Michael Harris,2017 This book presents a five session protocol for distressed …
Michele’s model is: - Brief Therapy Conference
about the best way to coach couples through the intensely emotional process. Today’s presentation, Healing from Infidelity, is based on over three decades of experience of helping …
THE HEALING SEPARATION: AN ALTERTNATIVE TO DIVORCE …
AN ALTERTNATIVE TO DIVORCE OR ENDING Adapted from Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends (2nd ed) by Bruce Fisher, PhD A Healing Separation is a structured time …
Divorce and Family Therapy: The Negative Effects of High …
divorce therapy. While marriage and family therapy has been established to help couples improve skills needed in a marriage, current research would behoove the modern counselor to consider …
SKILLS FOR COOPERATIVE PARENTING POST- DIVORCE
I. DIVORCE: A CHANGE PROCESS How will you know if you’ve adjusted, or adapted to the end of the relationship? For adults, adjustment involves three basic tasks. The first task is to …
The Use of Emotionally Focused Therapy with Separated or …
Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is one efective means of working with a couple who are separated or divorced. EFT is an empirically supported couples’ treatment that was developed …
Rebuilding Trust in Your Relationship - Between Sessions
When rebuilding trust, your relationship might look quite different after a major breach or infidelity, but it is possible to build something new together. Here are some suggestions or establishing …
The Efficacy of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy and …
Behavioral couple therapy (BCT) and emotionally focused couples therapy (EFCT) are well-established treatments to reduce couple distress. This meta-analysis summarizes the current …
Infidelity and Behavioral Couple Therapy: Relationship …
Results suggest two potential pathways for couples recovering from infidelity such that some infidelity couples continue to improve and remain indistinguishable from their noninfidelity …
chaPter 26 Legal and Ethical Issues in Couple Therapy - CE …
treating couples is considered common practice (Norcross et al., 2001), but it still presents us with unique ethical challenges that individual thera-pists do not encounter. To date, seven …
Deciding Not to Un-Do the I Do: A Qualitative Study of the …
further notes that often couples come into therapy when they have already decided to divorce and are looking to the counselor to help them break the news or get their permission.
June 8, 2015 Counseling Couples with a Trauma History
There are two empirically supported couple’s therapy approaches that have demonstrated efficacy when working with couples with histories of trauma: integrative behavioral couple therapy …
Rebuilding intimacy following infidelity - University of …
couples seeking therapy for infidelity. This model is based on the Intersystem’s Approach (Weeks, 1994), an integrative approach to couples therapy that provides a useful theoretical framework …
