| couples therapy sexless marriage: The Sexless Marriage Fix Robert M. Fleisher, Roberta Foss-Morgan, 2016-08-23 The Sexless Marriage Fix, by doctors Robert Fleisher and Roberta Foss-Morgan, is the book that gets everyone talking about a problem no one is talking about: sexless marriage. Unfortunately, it's an intimate problem that is nearing epidemic proportions. But what many don't realize is that there are real solutions, and it all begins with a blood test! In this eye-opening book, the authors reveal: * ?the true causes of the decline in the nature and frequency of sexual relations, including personal, behavioral, physical (including hormonal), psychological, or combined factors. * ?an intimate and straightforward discussion on male and female sexuality, including a frank exploration of aspects related to a decline in attraction unique to each gender. * ?how to work through virtually any problem with a comprehensive program designed to restore harmonious feelings and increase intimacy. |
| couples therapy sexless marriage: The Sex-Starved Marriage Michele Weiner-Davis, 2004 'Not tonight, darling, I've got a headache...' An estimated one in three couples suffer from problems associated with one partner having a higher libido than the other. Marriage therapist Michele Weiner Davis has written THE SEX-STARVED MARRIAGE to help couples come to terms with this problem. Weiner Davis shows you how to address pyschological factors like depression, poor body image and communication problems that affect sexual desire. With separate chapters for the spouse that's ready for action and the spouse that's ready for sleep, THE SEX-STARVED MARRIAGE will help you re-spark your passion and stop you fighting about sex. Weiner Davis is renowned for her straight-talking style and here she puts it to great use to let you know you're not alone in having marital sex problems. Bitterness or complacency about ho-hum sex can ruin a marriage, breaking the emotional tie of good sex. |
| couples therapy sexless marriage: Wanting Sex Again Laurie Watson, 2012-12-04 “I never want to have sex again.” If you feel like sex just isn’t worth the effort, you’re not alone. Forty million American women are frustrated by their lack of sexual passion. They know something’s missing—and their husbands know it, too—but the emotional, physical, and mental obstacles to healthy desire can be a knot that seems too tangled to unravel. Drawing on twenty years of clinical experience, Laurie Watson shows that it really is possible to restore the thrill of sex, using proven psychological methods and personal accounts from actual therapy sessions. Her strategies will: •Offer a glimpse into the reality of other people’s bedrooms •Address the sexual problems that can develop with life changes—from marriage to motherhood to menopause •Uncover the hidden factors that impact desire—stress, cultural messages, emotional connection, chemical and hormonal challenges, physical appearance issues, and more •Show how joyful, meaningful, satisfying sex can be yours again Candid, practical, and much needed, this book can help you rediscover your sexual self or discover it for the first time. Instead of dreading bedtime, you can look forward to it again. |
| couples therapy sexless marriage: Reconnected Greg Smalley, Erin Smalley, 2020-04-21 Are You Married to Your Roommate . . . or Your Lover? Whether you’ve been married for six years or six decades, you may wake up one day to discover that the person sleeping next to you has become a stranger. Between work, kids, financial woes, and the busyness of everyday living, your marriage may feel like it’s on life support. You and your spouse love each other, but you’re both barely hanging on. How do you find your way back? How do you reconnect with your spouse and capture all that marriage is intended to be? Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley understand. Despite being hailed as marriage experts, they found themselves living more like roommates than lovers. Through intentional work, they fought their way back, and you can too. In Reconnected, they’ll walk alongside you and your spouse as you learn to reconnect by: Sharing life-giving communicationDreaming together about your futureRekindling romance and passionEmbracing your individuality while coming together as a coupleTransforming your life from one of busyness to one of connection Take your marriage from surviving to thriving. Reconnect with your first love. |
| couples therapy sexless marriage: Everything Great Marriage Bob Stritof, 2004-01-19 Brimming with helpful information and tips, The Everything Great Marriage Book can help bring harmony to any relationship. |
| couples therapy sexless marriage: The Normal Bar Chrisanna Northrup, Pepper Schwartz, James Witte, 2013-02-05 Based on data obtained from nearly 100,000 respondents, here is the ultimate resource for anyone who wants to learn the relationship-tested ways couples can achieve satisfaction and contentment in areas such as communication, sex, affection, and financial cooperation. What constitutes “normal” behavior among happy couples? What steps you should take if that “normal” is one you want to strive for? To help answer those questions, wellness entrepreneur Chrisanna Northrup teamed with two of America’s top sociologists, Yale Ph.D. Pepper Schwartz and Harvard Ph.D. James Witte, to design a unique interactive survey that would draw feedback from around the world. What has resulted is the clearest picture yet of how well couples are communicating, romancing each other, satisfying each other in the bedroom, sharing financial responsibilities, and staying faithful – or not. Since the Normal Bar survey methodology sorts for age and gender, racial and geographic differences and sexual preferences, the authors are able to reveal , for example, what happens to passion as we grow older, which gender wants what when it comes to sex, the factors that spur marital combat, how kids figure in, how being gay or bisexual turns out to be both different and the same, and –regardless of background -- the tiny habits that drive partners absolutely batty. The book is dense with revelations, from the unexpected popularity of certain sexual positions, to the average number of times happy – and unhappy -- couples kiss, to the prevalence of lying, to the surprising loyalty most men and women feel for their partner (even when in a deteriorating relationship), to the vivid and idiosyncratic ways individuals of different ages, genders and nationalities describe their “ideal romantic evening.” Much more than a peek behind the relationship curtain, The Normal Bar offers readers an array of prescriptive tools that will help them establish a “new normal.” Mindful of what keeps couples stuck in ruts, the book’s authors suggest practical and life-changing ways to break cycles of disappointment and frustration. |
| couples therapy sexless marriage: How To Save Your Marriage In 3 Simple Steps Lee H Baucom Ph D, Lee H. Baucom, 2013-10 This book presents Lee Baucom's system for saving your marriage in three easy steps: connecting with your spouse, changing yourself, and creating a new path. |
| couples therapy sexless marriage: Resurrecting Sex David Schnarch, James Maddock, 2010-09-21 In this remarkable sexual health and wellness book, Dr. David Schnarch, world-renowned sex and marital therapist and author of Passionate Marriage, offers a groundbreaking approach to resolving sexual difficulties and the relationship problems they cause. By showing couples how they can turn their worst sex and relationship disasters into personal growth and spiritual connection, Dr. Schnarch offers couples the best sex of their lives. In addition to taking an unflinchingly honest, realistic, and erotic approach to sex, Dr. Schnarch reveals the complicated emotional interactions hidden within couples' most private moments. Resurrecting Sex speaks of compassion, partnership, generosity, and integrity in adult sexual relationships, offering hope to millions of people who are struggling with sexual difficulties. Uplifting, provocative, and heartfelt, the book is organized into four sections: A crash course in sex Explanation of how sexual relationships really work Medical options and bionic solutions Vignettes of couples changing their sexual relationships Resurrecting Sex addresses all major sexual issues, including male erection problems such as rapid orgasm and delayed orgasm; women's problems with arousal and lubrication, difficulty reaching orgasm, and low desire; full coverage of Viagra (for both men and women); and other sex-enhancing drugs and medical options. Rather than dwelling on sexual techniques, this sympathetic book shows how to cure the rejection, hostility, and emotional alienation that often accompany sexual problems. Its unique method helps couples develop the love, affection, and commitment that prevent divorce and strengthen families. |
| couples therapy sexless marriage: Divorce Busting Michele Weiner Davis, 1993-02 A step-by-step approach to making your marriage loving again. |
| couples therapy sexless marriage: Love Worth Making Stephen Snyder, M.D., 2018-02-13 Can sex survive monogamy? Yes, once you understand how sexual emotions really work. This acclaimed, paradigm-shifting guide turns traditional sex therapy inside-out to reveal the hidden rules for great sex. Gentle, compassionate, and filled with compelling stories from Dr. Stephen Snyder’s thirty years as a sex therapist working with over 1,500 individuals and couples, Love Worth Making is essential reading for anyone hoping to keep sexual inspiration alive in a committed relationship. |
| couples therapy sexless marriage: 52 E-mails to Transform Your Marriage Samantha Rodman, 2016-11-01 Press “send” for amazing results! With 52 E-mails to Transform Your Marriage, you’ll find a year’s worth of e-mails to help you reconnect with your spouse, reignite intimacy, and keep your love alive. There’s no doubt marriage can be a challenge—we’ve all heard that half of marriages end in divorce. A common problem you may face as a couple is feeling stuck or disconnected—lonely within the marriage—as if you and your spouse were worlds apart, even as you present a united front. Attempts to discuss the problem may lead to painful arguments, and even couples therapy may prove more expensive and time-consuming than effective, putting each of you on the spot and moving so quickly that you may leave, session after session, without feeling closer. E-mail, however, can be a much less threatening way to communicate your true thoughts and feelings. Based on the author’s popular online relationship coaching sessions, each chapter of this book provides an e-mail writing assignment focused on a different topic, such as sex, intimacy, communication, trust, and the future. These weekly assignments will grant you both the time to write—which can be extremely therapeutic in itself—and read what the other has to say without the need for an immediate response. With 52 E-mails to Transform Your Marriage, you’ll discover useful tips for good communication, learn how to respond to messages with empathy and validation, and be well on your way to rediscovering and sustaining the love that brought you together in the first place. |
| couples therapy sexless marriage: The New I Do Susan Pease Gadoua, Vicki Larson, 2014-09-23 If half of all cars bought in America each year broke down, there would be a national uproar. But when people suggest that maybe every single marriage doesn't look like the next and isn't meant to last until death, there's nothing but a rash of proposed laws trying to force it to do just that. In The New I Do, therapist Susan Pease Gadoua and journalist Vicki Larson take a groundbreaking look at the modern shape of marriage to help readers open their minds to marrying more consciously and creatively. Offering actual models of less-traditional marriages, including everything from a parenting marriage (intended for the sake of raising and nurturing children) to a comfort or safety marriage (where people marry for financial security or companionship), the book covers unique options for couples interested in forging their own paths. With advice to help listeners decide what works for them, The New I Doacts as a guide to thinking outside the marital box and the framework for a new debate on marriage in the 21st century. |
| couples therapy sexless marriage: Getting the Sex You Want Tammy Nelson, 2008-04-01 Here is a proven couples counseling method applied to sex for the very first time. Communication problems can erode a relationship in and out of the bedroom. This guide takes a proven communication method, which has been used to counsel millions of couples, and applies it to sex for the very first time. The Imago Relationship Therapy, which was pioneered by Harville Hendrix in the national bestseller and self-help classic Getting the Love You Want, shows readers how to understand and build trust with their partners through a unique form of dialogue. New in paperback, Getting the Sex You Want teaches readers how to build sexual communication skills quickly and connect with their partner in a new way. Readers learn exercises that enable them to communicate their sexual needs and desires, get past old issues, and revive passion in their relationship. |
| couples therapy sexless marriage: Is it You, Me, Or Adult A.D.D.? Gina Pera, 2008 Everyone involved with AD/HD will find the information in this book invaluable, especially people with AD/HD and couples therapists, who often mistake AD/HD for communication problems or personality differences. Meticulously researched and presented with empathy and humor, _Is It You, Me, or Adult A.D.D.?_ offers the latest information from top experts, who explain the science and proven protocols for reducing AD/HD's most challenging symptoms. Real-life details come from the partners themselves, who share their stories with touching candor yet plenty of humor. |
| couples therapy sexless marriage: Passionate Marriage David Morris Schnarch, 1997 A respectful, erotic, uplifting, and spiritual guide to sexual and emotional fulfillment. |
| couples therapy sexless marriage: Sexless Relationship Advice Harvey Madison, 2018-02-19 Mаnу реорlе ѕuffеr from a sexless relationship; you are by nо mеаnѕ on your оwn. Loneliness аnd bitterness are рrоbаblу thе оnlу twо еmоtiоnѕ сirсulаting around thе mаritаl hоmе at this moment. Thiѕ problem iѕ usually аѕѕосiаtеd with rеvеngе; one оf thе partners fееlѕ аѕ though thеу аrе nоt receiving thе аttеntiоn thеу dеѕеrvе. Tоdау''ѕ ѕосiеtу аnd culture рlасе tоо muсh emphasis on thе sexual side оf any rеlаtiоnѕhiр. What one реrѕоn сlаѕѕеѕ as a рrоblеm within the relationship mау nоt еvеn concern оthеr соuрlеѕ, diffеrеnt couple hаvе diffеrеnt priorities. Diѕсuѕѕing the problem openly аnd honestly between thе two оf уоu can bе the best wау to a rеѕоlutiоn. Thеrе will bе thingѕ ѕаid bу both раrtiеѕ during the diѕсuѕѕiоnѕ whiсh may ѕееm hurtful; thеѕе are bеttеr out in thе open. Dеаling with thе situation tоgеthеr will wоrk аnоthеr wау tоо; it will ѕаvе уоu thousands оf dollars whiсh уоu would spend оn therapy ѕеѕѕiоnѕ. Don''t gеt me wrоng I аm not saying that thеrару can''t hеlр, for ѕоmе people whоѕе iѕѕuеѕ are vеrу dеер rоutеd it may bе thеir оnlу сhоiсе. If уоu feel thаt you have асtеd ѕооn еnоugh to рrеvеnt thе рrоblеmѕ of a sexless rеlаtiоnѕhiр frоm еѕсаlаting, уоu ѕhоuld trу wоrking it оut tоgеthеr. Thiѕ will саuѕе уоur resolution tо fееl more satisfying and may help your rеlаtiоnѕhiр bесоmе stronger. Anуthing a married соuрlе dоеѕ together tо ѕоlvе a рrоblеm аffirmѕ thеir lоvе and dеvоtiоn to оnе another. There аrе mаnу couples having this рrоblеm. With that in mind, if уоu''rе gоing thrоugh thiѕ рrоblеm уоu know уоu''rе nоt аlоnе. Thе mоѕt соmmоn саuѕеѕ оf a ѕеxlеѕѕ relationship аrе having the same boring rоutinе day аftеr dау, рhуѕiсаl inаbilitу to bе aroused, and psychological iѕѕuеѕ. Alѕо, lоѕѕ of interest or attraction to уоur раrtnеr, having a big fight with уоur раrtnеr, аnd аn аffаir are all оthеr rеаѕоnѕ fоr a ѕеxlеѕѕ relationship. It''ѕ nоt еаѕу to live in a rеlаtiоnѕhiр withоut ѕеx, аnd it''s еѕресiаllу hard fоr thе partner who ѕtill craves sex tо dеаl with rеjесtiоn, соnfuѕiоn, аnd fear. Tо fix this kind of rеlаtiоnѕhiр you hаvе to firѕt kеер соmmuniсаtiоn constant with уоu аnd уоur раrtnеr. You have do thiѕ bесаuѕе it helps your раrtnеr talk аbоut why and hоw thеу аrе fееling аbоut not hаving ѕеx. Withоut соmmuniсаtiоn, thеrе''ѕ no rеlаtiоnѕhiр, nоt tо mention sex. Rеlаtiоnѕhiрѕ tеnd tо get stale duе thе fасt of a dау after dау rоutinе. With thаt ѕаid, do ѕоmеthing to introduce еxсitеmеnt in уоur rеlаtiоnѕhiр. Yоur раrtnеr may wаnt уоu to try ѕоmеthing nеw, and if уоu''rе not willing tо trу this mау cause rеѕеntmеnt, thus a sexless rеlаtiоnѕhiр. Anоthеr wау to fix this kind оf relationship iѕ tо dо thingѕ that don''t force ѕеx оn уоur partner. Yоu соuld givе your partner a bасk rub, or a fооt rub. Dо things that help your partner wаnt tо bе more intimаtе with уоu. If the рrоblеm in thе rеlаtiоnѕhiр is dеереr, thеn ѕit dоwn and tаlk to уоur раrtnеr аbоut the рrоblеmѕ уоu both fееl аrе in the rеlаtiоnѕhiр. Once уоu bоth саn idеntifу those рrоblеmѕ, уоu then mаkе рrоmiѕеѕ аnd commitments tо еасh оthеr tо meet еасh other hаlfwау аnd fix those problems together. When уоu dо thiѕ, don''t wоrrу thеrе will so muсh ѕеxuаl tеnѕiоn bеtwееn уоu аnd уоur partner thаt it''ll be hard for the twо оf уоu tо kеер уоur hаndѕ off еасh other. Thiѕ iѕ great ѕеxlеѕѕ rеlаtiоnѕhiр hеlр for уоu. Yоu саn resolve a sexless rеlаtiоnѕhiр with hard work and dеtеrminаtiоn. Remember, if уоu wаnt something еnоugh уоu can ѕuссееd, thiѕ goes with mаnу thingѕ in lifе, nоt juѕt a relationship. As long аѕ уоu саn ѕее thаt a рrоblеm еxiѕtѕ уоu can ѕtаrt to work on the саuѕе, bеing diѕtаnt аnd аvоiding thе situation will only mаkе things worse. If you trulу are in love with thе реrѕоn уоu married then thеrе iѕ nо ѕubjесt аnd nо problem thаt you саn''t discuss. Fоr уоur ѕаkе, I''ve расkаgеd this еуе-ореning, jаw drоррing GUIDE tо hеlр уоu lеаrn аbоut thе cures аnd ѕоlutiоnѕ tо уоur ѕеxlеѕѕ rеlаtiоnѕhiр. |
| couples therapy sexless marriage: The Social Organization of Sexuality Edward O. Laumann, John H. Gagnon, Robert T. Michael, Stuart Michaels, 2000-12-15 Reports the complete results of the United States' most comprehensive representative survey of sexual practices in the general adult population. |
| couples therapy sexless marriage: Rekindling Desire Barry McCarthy, Emily McCarthy, 2013-12-17 For over a decade Rekindling Desire has helped to restore and restructure sexuality in thousands of lives. This expanded edition continues the exploration of inhibited sexual desire and no-sex relationships by the author, who brings decades of knowledge and the expertise that comes from having treated almost 3,000 couples for sexual problems. Contained within are suggested strategies and exercises that help develop communication and sexual skills, as well as interesting case studies that open the doors to couples’ sexual frustrations. The shame, embarrassment, and hesitancy that individuals feel with themselves, and the resentment and blame they can feel towards their sexual partners, are explored and put into context. Whether you are married, cohabitating, or dating, or if you are 25, 45, or 75, reading this book will help renew your sexual desire and put you on the path towards healthy, pleasure-oriented sexuality. |
| couples therapy sexless marriage: NOT "Just Friends" Shirley Glass, 2007-11-01 One of the world’s leading experts on infidelity provides a step-by-step guide through the process of infidelity—from suspicion and revelation to healing, and provides profound, practical guidance to prevent infidelity and, if it happens, recover and heal from it. You’re right to be cautious when you hear these words: “I’m telling you, we’re just friends.” Good people in good marriages are having affairs. The workplace and the Internet have become fertile breeding grounds for “friendships” that can slowly and insidiously turn into love affairs. Yet you can protect your relationship from emotional or sexual betrayal by recognizing the red flags that mark the stages of slipping into an improper, dangerous intimacy that can threaten your marriage. |
| couples therapy sexless marriage: Secretly, I've Been Suffering About Being Sexless Togame, 2019-07-30 True confessions from a sexless marriage... Togame and her husband are happy in love and want to have kids. There's just one problem: Their bedroom has turned into a no-bang zone! With her raging libido frustrated by her beloved husband's practically nonexistent sex drive, Togame is climbing the walls in search of release...Left to her own devices to get her fix, will fulfilling her needs spell doom for Togame's marriage?! |
| couples therapy sexless marriage: From Conflict To Resolution Susan Heitler, 1993 In a dramatic theoretical breakthrough, psychologist Susan M. Heitler unties various schools of therapy with a powerful insight. Emotional healing depends on movement from conflict to resolution, as the title suggests. |
| couples therapy sexless marriage: Sexual Intimacy for Women Glenda Corwin, 2010-05-25 A guide for lesbian couples to improve their levels of intimacy, providing exercises and anecdotes, covering common issues women in same-sex couples have, and discussing the intricacies of female desire. |
| couples therapy sexless marriage: Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples Leslie S. Greenberg, Susan M. Johnson, 1988-10-07 This influential volume provides a comprehensive introduction to emotionally focused therapy (EFT): its theoretical foundations, techniques, and clinical practice. EFT is a structured approach to couple therapy that integrates intrapsychic and interpersonal perspectives to help couples create new, more satisfying interactional patterns. Since the original publication of this book, EFT has been implemented and tested with growing numbers of couples in a wide range of settings. The authors, who codeveloped the approach, illuminate the power of emotional experience in relationships and in the process of therapeutic change. The book is richly illustrated with case examples and session transcripts. |
| couples therapy sexless marriage: Wanting Sex Again Laurie Watson, 2012-12-04 “I never want to have sex again.” If you feel like sex just isn’t worth the effort, you’re not alone. Forty million American women are frustrated by their lack of sexual passion. They know something’s missing—and their husbands know it, too—but the emotional, physical, and mental obstacles to healthy desire can be a knot that seems too tangled to unravel. Drawing on twenty years of clinical experience, Laurie Watson shows that it really is possible to restore the thrill of sex, using proven psychological methods and personal accounts from actual therapy sessions. Her strategies will: •Offer a glimpse into the reality of other people’s bedrooms •Address the sexual problems that can develop with life changes—from marriage to motherhood to menopause •Uncover the hidden factors that impact desire—stress, cultural messages, emotional connection, chemical and hormonal challenges, physical appearance issues, and more •Show how joyful, meaningful, satisfying sex can be yours again Candid, practical, and much needed, this book can help you rediscover your sexual self or discover it for the first time. Instead of dreading bedtime, you can look forward to it again. |
| couples therapy sexless marriage: A Celebration of Sex for Newlyweds Douglas E. Rosenau, 2005-10-09 Reclaim the Bible-based concept of marriage as a satisfying one-flesh relationship. A definitive guide to marital intimacy for newlywed Christian couples, learn how to deepen sexual pleasure and enjoy God’s gift of sexual intimacy with your new spouse. It can be difficult to find biblically based sexual advice, especially early on in your marriage. A licensed psychologist and family therapist, Dr. Douglas Rosenau answers specific and often unasked questions about sexual topics, presenting newlyweds with detailed techniques and skills to deepen their sexual pleasure and improve their marriages. An excellent tool for premarital education and counseling or as a wedding gift, it’s a must-read for Christian spouses. In this easy-to-read guide, Dr. Rosenau covers topics including: Building a biblical foundation of knowledge about sexual intimacy Enhancing pleasure and enjoying passionate intimacy Overcoming common hurdles Resolving problems and healing brokenness Grounded in Scripture and written by a pioneer of Christian sex therapy, A Celebration of Sex is comprehensive, direct, and honest, treating sex with the respect it deserves and a Christ-like foundation. |
| couples therapy sexless marriage: Mating in Captivity Esther Perel, 2007-10-30 One of the world’s most respected voices on erotic intelligence, Esther Perel offers a bold, provocative new take on intimacy and sex. Mating in Captivity invites us to explore the paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire, and explains what it takes to bring lust home. Drawing on more than twenty years of experience as a couples therapist, Perel examines the complexities of sustaining desire. Through case studies and lively discussion, Perel demonstrates how more exciting, playful, and even poetic sex is possible in long-term relationships. Wise, witty, and as revelatory as it is straightforward, Mating in Captivity is a sensational book that will transform the way you live and love. |
| couples therapy sexless marriage: Intimacy and Desire Dr David Schnarch, 2010 In this groundbreaking book, Dr. David Schnarch, one of the foremost experts on sexuality and relationships, explains why normal healthy couples in long-term relationships have sexual desire problems, regardless of how much they love each other or how well they communicate. In-depth examples of couples he has counselled reveal his unique understanding of common-but-difficult sexual desire problems that affect couples of all ages. Combining compassion and clinical wisdom, Dr. Schnarch explains how to use his revolutionary Four Points of Balance approach to resolve low desire, mismatched desire, sexual boredom, and the emotional gridlock that accompanies these problems. Intimacy and Desire provides a roadmap for how couples can transform common sexual desire problems into self-exploration and personal development that leads to psychological and spiritual growth, stronger relationships, and more powerful and meaningful desire for each other. It provides time-proven comprehensive solutions that help couples reconnect with each other sexually, and take their intimacy and passion to new, previously unexplored heights. |
| couples therapy sexless marriage: Sexual Intelligence Marty Klein, 2013-02-05 This is not your standard sex book. Sex therapist, sociologist, and Psychology Today contributor Dr. Marty Klein goes beyond the sex manuals to reveal how our mindsets during sex are more important than any tricks or techniques—and that the way to a healthier, more exciting, more fulfilling sex life lies in first developing our sexual intelligence. This book is the antidote to the many gimmick-oriented sex guides and manuals; Dr. Klein shows us how to reorient how we think about sex in order to experience a truly different way of being sexual. “Marty Klein is the Steve Jobs of sex advice. . . . Sexual Intelligence is a work of enormous wisdom and expansiveness, and will inspire readers, regardless of age, to realize their full sexual potential.” —Ian Kerner, best-selling author of She Comes First |
| couples therapy sexless marriage: Married Roommates Talia Wagner, Allen Wagner, 2019-04-19 Are You Married but Living Like Roommates? Do you sleep back-to-back or even separately? Do you feel lonely, bored, and sexually frustrated in your marriage? Have you, in fact, become just roommates? Millions of couples live empty parallel lives and wonder, “Is this all there is?” Talia and Allen Wagner, marriage and family therapists, have illuminated this sadly familiar, silent epidemic of Married Roommates. They give couples a new way to bring back the spark in their marriage with tools and strategies to learn how to talk to and with your spouse, not to mention how to get away from the tit for tats and the constant feeling of walking and talking on eggshells. This book helps you reclaim your marriage by learning how to: - Communicate effectively without assumptions and misinterpretations - Resolve conflict by avoiding fighting or escalation - Maintain attraction, intimacy, and sex - Prioritize one another and work as a team - Gain the tools to stop the fighting, disrespect, jabs, and low blows - Create new routines and reinvigorate the stale parts of your relationship |
| couples therapy sexless marriage: The Muslim Marriage Guide Ruqaiyyah Waris Maqsood, 2006 |
| couples therapy sexless marriage: Sexless Marriages. Sexless Marriage Advice. Sexless Marriage and Celibate Marriage Guide Jay Stanbury, 2017-08-22 This book isn't about fixing sexless marriages - it talks about how painful and soul-destroying it is to be in one. There are millions of people trapped in sexless marriages with refusers and this book describes exactly how it can feel for the refused spouse to be in a sexless relationship. A sexless marriage is no laughing matter - it is an incredibly painful situation to be caught up in and there is little relief until you finally fight your way clear of the strangling grip of a refuser and learn how to live again. But even in our pain, we can sometimes poke fun at ourselves and a bit of rueful laughter now and then does help relieve some of the sheer misery of the day-to-day grind of living with a refuser. So I include this to try and lighten the mood just a tiny bit and if you can get a chuckle out of it from time to time - or even if it hits a little too close to home - just realize that you are not alone out there. Covered in this book: - Decide to stay or leave - Mourning the spouse you needed - Reasons for a sexless marriage - Red flags - Setting ourselves free ......and much more! |
| couples therapy sexless marriage: Eight Dates John Gottman, Julie Schwartz Gottman, Doug Abrams, Rachel Carlton Abrams, 2019-02-05 Whether you’re newly together and eager to make it work or a longtime couple looking to strengthen and deepen your bond, Eight Dates offers a program of how, why, and when to have eight basic conversations with your partner that can result in a lifetime of love. “Happily ever after” is not by chance, it’s by choice– the choice each person in a relationship makes to remain open, remain curious, and, most of all, to keep talking to one another. From award-winning marriage researcher and bestselling author Dr. John Gottman and fellow researcher Julie Gottman, Eight Dates offers an ingenious and simple-to-implement approach to effective relationship communication. Here are the subjects that every serious couple should discuss: Trust. Family. Sex and intimacy. Dealing with conflict. Work and money. Dreams, and more. And here is how to talk about them—how to broach subjects that are difficult or embarrassing, how to be brave enough to say what you really feel. There are also suggestions for where and when to go on each date—book your favorite romantic restaurant for the Sex & Intimacy conversation (and maybe go to a yoga or dance class beforehand). There are questionnaires, innovative exercises, real-life case studies, and skills to master, including the Four Skills of Intimate Conversation and the Art of Listening. Because making love last is not about having a certain feeling—it’s about both of you being active and involved. |
| couples therapy sexless marriage: Sacred Cows Danielle Teller, Astro Teller, 2014-07-01 A husband-and-wife doctor team offers fresh and startling perspective on one of our most cherished and misunderstood institutions. Drs. Astro and Danielle Teller know better than most that finding the right partner in life doesn’t always happen the first time around. Through their own divorces they learned how widely held cultural assumptions and misinformation that nobody thinks to question—what they refer to as “sacred cows”—create unnecessary heartache for people who are already suffering through a terrible time. Do you think, for example, that the divorce rate in the United States is rising? Or that children are harmed by divorce? Most people do, but it turns out that neither of these notions is supported by the data. Combining the rigor that has established them as leaders in their respective fields along with a dose of good-natured humor, the Tellers ask readers to take a fresh look at seven common sacred cows: the Holy Cow, the Expert Cow, the Selfish Cow, the Defective Cow, the Innocent Victim Cow, the One True Cow, and the Other Cow. This is not a book that is “for” marriage or “for” divorce, but “for” the freedom to decide how to live most honestly and happily either as part of a couple or a single person. |
| couples therapy sexless marriage: The State of Affairs Esther Perel, 2017-10-10 A fresh look at infidelity, broadening the focus from the havoc it wreaks within a committed relationship to consider also why people do it, what it means to them, and why breaking up is the expected response to duplicity — but not necessarily the wisest one.” — LA Review of Books From iconic couples’ therapist and bestselling author of Mating in Captivity comes a provocative and controversial look at infidelity with practical, honest, and empathetic advice for how to move beyond it. An affair: it can rob a couple of their relationship, their happiness, their very identity. And yet, this extremely common human experience is so poorly understood. What are we to make of this time-honored taboo—universally forbidden yet universally practiced? Why do people cheat—even those in happy marriages? Why does an affair hurt so much? When we say infidelity, what exactly do we mean? Do our romantic expectations of marriage set us up for betrayal? Is there such a thing as an affair-proof marriage? Is it possible to love more than one person at once? Can an affair ever help a marriage? Perel weaves real-life case stories with incisive psychological and cultural analysis in this fast-paced and compelling book. For the past ten years, Perel has traveled the globe and worked with hundreds of couples who have grappled with infidelity. Betrayal hurts, she writes, but it can be healed. An affair can even be the doorway to a new marriage—with the same person. With the right approach, couples can grow and learn from these tumultuous experiences, together or apart. Affairs, she argues, have a lot to teach us about modern relationships—what we expect, what we think we want, and what we feel entitled to. They offer a unique window into our personal and cultural attitudes about love, lust, and commitment. Through examining illicit love from multiple angles, Perel invites readers into an honest, enlightened, and entertaining exploration of modern marriage in its many variations. Fiercely intelligent, The State of Affairs provides a daring framework for understanding the intricacies of love and desire. As Perel observes, “Love is messy; infidelity more so. But it is also a window, like no other, into the crevices of the human heart.” |
| couples therapy sexless marriage: I Fell in Love with an Asexual Dave Wheitner, 2018-02-24 Winner, Sexuality, Beverly Hills Book Awards.Are you in a sexless marriage or relationship with someone who may be a low-interest asexual? Praised by leading sexuality experts, this self-help memoir from the sexual partner's perspective is a first.Millions worldwide may be asexual--with some exceptions, they do not experience sexual attraction. Asexuality remains the invisible orientation, largely unknown and misunderstood.While some asexuals enjoy sex, a large majority do not. For those who do not, relationships with sexually motivated people can be challenging. Because in-depth discussion and education about sexuality are limited in our culture, both partners may initially be unaware of their differences. This can create frustration and confusion. Blaming helps no one.Blending elements of Evan Ocean's intimate story with his own, Dave Wheitner shares expertise and perspective from counseling and psychology degrees, sexuality and intimacy training, and firsthand experiences similar to Evan's. The book cites 120+ sources, including works by asexual authors.Learn how to recognize asexuality, clarify your sexual needs, identify barriers to sexual fulfillment such as guilt and shame, expand your options for sharing physical intimacy, communicate with your partner, explore sensitive topics like sexual entitlement and body insecurity, accept your partner while taking ownership of your own sexual expression, and enlist support if needed.Whether you're a sexually motivated partner or relationship professional, the candid story, insights, tools, and tips will resonate with you.This new second edition incorporates feedback on the first edition. |
| couples therapy sexless marriage: Can Love Last?: The Fate of Romance over Time Stephen A. Mitchell, 2003-02-17 A beautiful and brilliant reexamination of love and its perils.—Barbara Fisher, Boston Globe Common wisdom has it that love is fragile, but leading psychoanalyst Stephen A. Mitchell argues that romance doesn't actually diminish in long-term relationships—it becomes increasingly dangerous. What we regard as the transience of love is really risk management. Mitchell shows that love can endure, if only we become aware of our self-destructive efforts to protect ourselves from its risks. Those who read this book will love more wisely because of it.—Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon [A] work on romance that is rich and multi-layered.—Publishers Weekly Cheerful, open, and humane—you'd definitely have wanted him as your analyst.—Judith Shulevitz, The New York Times Book Review [T]houghtful, compassionate, and profoundly optimistic.—JoAnn Gutin, Salon.com |
| couples therapy sexless marriage: Coming Home to Passion Ruth Cohn, 2011-02-18 This book offers a detailed road map for overcoming sexual and relationship impasses originating from painful childhood experiences. Large numbers of adults with histories of childhood trauma and neglect suffer persistent relationship and sexual difficulties. Unfortunately, most have failed to receive adequate help with emerging from these deep and complex problems. Coming Home to Passion: Restoring Loving Sexuality in Couples with Histories of Childhood Trauma and Neglect explores the enduring impacts—physiological, psychological, and behavioral—of childhood trauma and neglect. Author Ruth Cohn, drawing on 25 years of experience working with trauma survivors and their partners and families, lays out a practical and actionable course for recovery in clear, accessible language. This book provides direction and hope to those with trauma backgrounds while also serving as a unique resource for professional readers. Integrating in-depth information on attachment and relationship, trauma and neglect, and sexuality, Cohn details a practical, hands-on treatment approach for revitalizing love, health, and passion. |
| couples therapy sexless marriage: The New Monogamy Tammy Nelson, 2013-01-02 Everyone has their own concept of what “monogamy” means—and most people assume their partners and spouses are on the same page. Couples may assume that they are monogamous, but never discuss exactly what the monogamy agreement means to them. What happens when this implicit agreement is broken? After infidelity, relationships can become strained as both partners lose trust and faith in each other. The New Monogamy offers a way out of these difficulties for couples struggling to stay together after infidelity. Couples make these implicit assumptions and agreements explicit so that each partner knows exactly what is expected of them in the future and what they can expect from their partner. Author Tammy Nelson helps couples regain trust, romance, and intimacy after infidelity by redefining the monogamy contract. The new monogamy contract is an explicit relationship agreement created after the affair that allows each partner to openly, honestly, and safely share their desires, expectations, and limitations. This agreement does not create an open marriage, but rather, an open conversation wherein each partner can have a say in setting the ground rules for their relationship. The book first helps couples rebuild trust after the affair, then engages in a series of Imago dialogues based on questions about what each partner really wants in the relationship, not what you think you should want or what a partner wants you to want. The New Monogamy includes questionnaires, checklists, and candid questions for partners to ask that help welcome complete honesty and trust back into the relationship. Then, the book helps couples make an erotic recovery from infidelity by addressing erotic problems that may surface and offers advice for helping couples return to desiring and trusting one another. After an affair, it’s impossible to go back to the way the relationship was before, but this book offers the chance for a new beginning. |
| couples therapy sexless marriage: Why Men Stop Having Sex Bob Berkowitz, Susan Yager-Berkowitz, 2008-12-30 An estimated twenty million American men and women are in relationships in which the man has stopped being sexually intimate. Is the problem physical, emotional, or psychological—or are these guys simply bored with their partners? To find answers, bestselling author and relationship expert Dr. Bob Berkowitz and his wife, Susan Yager-Berkowitz, began an unprecedented survey of more than four thousand men and women in this situation, gathering data and following up with hundreds of interviews with selected respondents. Why Men Stop Having Sex provides a unique window into the sexless man's mind—so that men and women can understand this important issue and begin to address the problems that have inhibited intimacy, and ultimately solve them. |
| couples therapy sexless marriage: Making Love Real Danielle Harel Phd, Celeste Hirschman Ma, 2015-10-01 If you are thinking about ordering this book, you probably have a strong desire to work on your relationship, but the steps to take to create any kind of real and lasting changes may feel like a mystery. You may have tried everything from taking a romantic vacation to buying a drawer full of feathers, candles and sex toys you still haven't used. You may have even gone to couples therapy and learned some tools for good communication. Making Love Real will help you take your relationship to the next level, one that includes both your emotional and your sexual connection. Written by two pioneering sex therapists and relationship coaches who have worked successfully with countless individuals and couples helping them improve their relationships and sort out their sexual challenges, this comprehensive guide offers you an in-depth understanding of sexual desire and relationship dynamics as well as a highly practical set of tools that will help you have deep and lasting transformation in your relationship. You will learn why you have the same fight over and over again and how to break the cycle to repair and heal old resentments. You will find out what actually turns people on psychologically and physically and how to have an honest, supportive conversation about your desires. You will learn how to handle the day-to-day ups and downs of relationship and how to use challenges in your relationship to deepen intimacy instead of eroding it. You will create the passionate connection you've always wanted. |
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